My dear Lady
A short history about me, my story starts as an ignorant young lady with great dreams but soon realise I know nothing about homemaking.
After I got married, the first two years were easy. We were both teachers and at the time stayed in a boarding school. We had to substitute for the absence of parents and had to give love, guidance, help with homework and general duties such as personal habits and behaviour. There was no household to keep, it was all done for us by matrons.
Soon we moved into our own home and it was over. I had to do it all myself now. We decided it was time to start a family and I will be a stay-at-home mum when the kids were born. I decided to become a full-time housewife of my own choice. I wanted to enjoy my children, rather than have money in the bank.
On my first morning as a housewife, reality kicked in. I realised I know very little of what is expected of me. Where do I start and how will I accomplish it?
I knew how to use a broom, cook a basic meal and how to do the dishes, but how to organise my day, was not in my frame of mind.
Mum taught me what I had to know, how to clean, cook and do laundry but not how to create a routine. In the beginning, it took me the whole day to figure out what to do when. I managed, but with no time to spare.
Another eye-opener came at social gatherings. The women would sit together and just talk about events at home. Cleaning, how to fold a fitted sheet, gossip and children and domestic problems. I never fitted in, and thought to myself, there must be more to being a housewife.
With a smile on her face, Mum left me to my own ways. Watching as my story unfolds, she was waiting patiently for me to come and ask for her advice and guidance.
After an in-depth discussion over a cup of tea with Mum, she gave me the insight to see the difference and many facets of being a good Homemaker and consequently, not just being a housewife.
There are skills you have to master, to distinguish you from the rest, my dear, she said. Skills to learn, knowledge to master and abilities that came with experience and practice. That is the way to create a calm and loving home for the family. As a result, creating a safe place to come home to.
Mum was an excellent homemaker. She knew how to create warmth, comfort and most of all, security. Making it a home and not just a place to stay.