When falling in love, you instinctively want to shower him with all your attention.
Most women love and care for him in obsession and it is not a good idea. Men feel smothered when this happens. It is too overpowering and could mean the end of a good relationship.
Read more and find how to fall in love and stay in love.
True love really exists my dear, if you have not felt it, you have not fallen in love yet!
Your Dream Man
Nothing feels as good and makes you happier than having a man loving you truly from his heart.
Giving you his devotion, undivided attention, making you feel special and the only woman that matters.
He wants to be with you, furthermore, do things with you and for you. He wants to give you the world.
Where and When to find him
I am pretty sure you will hardly ever find him in the early years of your adult life because most men are still on a learning curve, experiencing, having good fun, for that matter, he is not ready.
Use your time wisely.This is the time you have to enjoy exploring too. It is not the time to look for a serious relationship, because the men you are interested in, are just not ready to commit or settle down.
The men who are ready to settle down are sure of themselves and older. Seldom will you find him amongst the younger groups you are mixing with now.
Have fun and enjoy your youth without trying to settle too quickly, it will be a huge mistake, my dear. Most of the time it is with the wrong person and will cause many unhappy and sad moments.
When you are older and know what you want you will find your man. Men calmed down the older they get, and therefore know what they want.
A man has to be ready to get serious. He has to feel secure and confident in himself and his career. Have been around the block and did what he set out to do, only then will he be ready for a long term relationship.
They also get sick and tired of the hollow dating scene and fun and sex. Most of them have established their careers, know what they want and feel much more confident for a long term relationship. You do get the exceptions though.
To find a man in an ordinary bar is not an ideal place if you want a keeper unless it is a high-class specialised bar. Guys in local bars are not ready to settle down and are still on the fun and fool around phase.
Find a guy who has the same interests as you, for instance at a sports club, charity events, church, business seminars, visit top restaurants, etc. They will most probably have the same interests and values and it will be a much better chance of finding your man.
When you have caught his eye and he is interested too, what now my love?
Learn the Art of Flirting.
Flirting is al about establishing a connection that will lead to a love relationship. There are verbal and non-verbal flirting. One is more subtle than the other. Playful interaction with eyes and a smile is the most common. It is an act you can learn, my dear.
Have a few dates to make sure he is as interested as you are. Do you have a lot in common and can you start trusting each other? Invite him to join you and friends at a sporting event. See if he is comfortable, take part and fits in with the group.
How to make a man fall in love with you, keep him interested and devoted to you has all to do with his primal needs, my dear
Capture his Mind, Caress his Ego and
take Care of his Soul.
A Man and His Mission
A man set goals and is always on a mission. When a man is serious about something, he wants to be the victor of every goal he sets in his life. Everything is a challenge and he must be the champion whether it is a race or a business deal. Men are competitive creatures from birth, my love.
Most of all, he wants to be the conqueror of the most valuable prize of his heart… You! How do you create this contest to become the ultimate winner of his heart?
Ways to Capture His Mind
Secrets to a Man’s Love
Men need a challenge to ‘win’. Keep him winning your attention repeatedly. Never become comfortable and too easily accessible. Let him ‘deserve’ a date with you, occasionally let him earn it, even when you are married.
It is good to keep specific evenings for dates, at least once a week. You don’t have to go out, have a private date at home, just the two of you, lock the doors and switch off the phones. Organise with a friend to take care of the kids overnight and next time you return the favour.
Make him conscious how important you are, having you by his side will enhance the quality of his life tremendously. Every man wants a great woman by his side.
A way to create value is staying away for a while with good reason, go out with lady friends, go and visit your parents, go on a course at work, etc.
It will leave an emptiness making him aware how much he misses you, imagining a life without you will be detrimental. He will realise your value and be more dedicated.
A man wants a woman who has a calming effect and brings happy feelings in his life. Men are programmed to move towards things and people who create the feel GOOD and happy feelings and will move away the moment something feels BAD and heavy.
Make him feel he is the most important and best person in your life. Shower him with compliments and mean it, especially his physic, he wants reassurance every day.
A man wants to be in a relationship which makes him feel good. Never turn a relationship into your emotional dumping ground, blaming or accusing him.
The best attitude is to be happy and fun to be with. Smile and laugh often, it shows him, it is easy to make you happy.
Find a specific place and time to discuss bad influences threatening the relationship. Do in a calm manner and deal with it in a unified way.
Ask each other’s advice, listen and compromise. You can say anything and everything you want to him and have his deep appreciation for you, as long he feels you are on his side.
Never accuse, blame or make him feel like you are opposing him, that is conflict. In a healthy relationship, a man wants to share his emotions with someone he can trust, just like you, whether it is good news or bad.
Never try to change the character of your partner. To have a complete relationship you must accept and enjoy each other as unique individuals.
Don’t try to conform and change your partner to your needs. Relax, love and enjoy who he /she is, stop having concerns and worries, let go and let be! Things you find important might be destroying your relationship causing your man to pull away.
Why did he not text me back or call me? Remember your man is a Hunter! Single-track minded with good reason and his focus is on his goal of the moment.
It all goes back to ‘winning‘ the challenge of the moment. Anything outside that target is a distraction from his mission. Texting or calling is the last thing on his mind and has nothing to do with you or what you did.
A man wants to feel acts of love from you too. Unconsciously they expect your love back it the same way they show their love to you. It is the only way they will recognise it.
How do you show the love the way he will recognise?
Make it your priority to understand the way your man loves.
Love and romance have been confused with wants and needs as much as a need for oxygen. All his acts of love can be romantic if you know his love language.
You might have an image of what love means to you, On the other hand, your man has an image what love means to him. These two images can be worlds apart, with unnecessary misunderstandings as a result.
Many women have a man that loves them deeply and show it to her in his way. She never appreciates it, because, she does not know his love language.
Simply look at the way he is showering you with his love. What are his surprises? Pay attention to special personal little acts of love, is it words of love and praise, hugs and kisses leading to the bedroom. Is it small gifts he comes home with or things he does for you to make you feel special, maybe cook you your special meal.
You will immediately recognise his acts of love and that is the way to love him back. Keep it balanced and don’t go overboard, giving too much will make him bored.
The X-Factor in a Relationship
Confidence Confidence Confidence. Be sure of who you are and what you have and what you want. This makes all the difference, my dear.
Before you enter a serious relationship, my dear makes sure, first of all, you both know who you are. Be happy with the person you are and the body you have. Inspire and support each other to keep growing within, together and separate my dear.