What is it I have to know Gran, to meet the man of my dreams and have a successful relationship? What do I have to do, to capture the magic secret everybody envies?
It is not what you can do for him my dear, not at all. The recipe of this secret is, to focus on your own well being, before you meet your man.
Become uniquely you. Have a vision and know what you want and where you want to go. This is the magic recipe, my dear. The man of your dreams will find you in the crowds, and want you for the right reasons.
Ask yourself, Am I ready to meet my perfect match and have a happy carefree relationship? Do I still have goals to achieve, before going into a committed relationship?
You have to be a strong, motivated individual, and most of all, emotionally and financially stable and independent. That makes you the ideal partner to be with. Relaxed and be able to focus on the things important for a happy relationship. You will have achieved your goals and can make this connection number one.
As an example, when going on a date you always make sure to look your best physically, therefore clean and shiny hair, nails well-groomed and shoes. Stylish clothes for the occasion, butterflies in your tummy making the moment perfect.
That is the glossy outside he can see, but what about the clutter of emotional baggage you are dragging around? It will never make you feel confident.
Are you still an unorganized mess, tangled thoughts, a knot of stress and a turmoil of emotions? What if you can feel inside just as well-groomed as outside, for instance, calm, happy and all your emotions under control.
We are going to try our best to create a groomed personality to match the smile on your face. Let us start working to get you ready, my love.
Secret Language of Relationships
HOW TO BECOME A MENTALLY STRONG WOMAN
Have you seen women crumbling under pressure, losing themselves and becoming hysterical? It is never good to see when a pretty woman loses control, panics and shouts, as a matter of fact, it is very humiliating.
MEN ADORE A STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN.
To become an emotionally strong woman you need to change your mindset and never feel the victim. Have a balanced outlook and stay calm.
Distance yourself for a moment from the problem, most importantly, looking at it from the other side of the fence.
How to handle a traumatic negative experience as a strong woman.
How To Overcome Trauma
Give yourself permission to feel sad and angry, express yourself and live it out. Throw a dozen eggs against a wall if you feel it will help, my dear. [Remember to clean up afterwards]
Pull the covers over your head.
Cry your eyes out and feel sorry for yourself.
Try to figure out what happened and accept it.
In the end, nothing happens without a reason. Later you will realise it was for the best, though now it looks like the end of the world.
Don’t take forever to recover.
Analyse and acknowledge the facts, my darling, begin the recovering process as soon as possible.
Get over it, firstly life is too short to waste time.
A relationship that makes you feel sad and upset most of the time, is not worth it.
Change to your survival attitude.
Realize something much better will come out of this and this wonderful thing might be waiting right around the corner.
Get yourself up and going, simultaneously, get ready for the next exciting experience.
Dig deep and find your silver lining. Making positive declarations will bring a change in attitude.
Be Aware Of All The Gremlins
• Never act out of desperation. Never act crazy or do silly things. Keep yourself together and try to act calm and normal, though you don’t feel like it.
• Listen to your intuition it will never fail you, as a matter of fact, you will have your solution right there.
• Do not get jealous, it does not become you and is never an answer to a lost or fading relationship. Move on.
• Hold on … have faith in yourself … EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!
• Remember all have a purpose and in addition, you will benefit from it.
Surrender to what has happened. You can not change it.
SEE REALITY FOR WHAT IT IS AND NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS.
Become a Mystery Woman
To become a mysterious, magnetic, beautiful extraordinary woman is the secret to catching the eye of a special man. It is time to clean out old useless habits making you one of the flock. Here are a few new habits making it possible.
• Confidence is very important, most of all it comes with knowledge. Make it your mission to know who you really are.
Walk tall with long strides, hold your head high with an air of confidence. Being poised and calm, oozes confidence.
Feel the Goddess you are!
• Become a good listener. Look the person in the eye and focus on what he says, importantly, give comments to make sure you understand what the meaning of the conversation is.
Really be interested in him or her and give them your full attention, therefore, never interrupt.
Remember my dear, people will always remember how you make them feel. They will remember your excitement when seeing them and certainly, how special you make them feel when you are around.
• Always be calm and composed no matter what the situation might be. Be energetic and dynamic, never a Goodie-two-shoes. Speak with vigour and vitality, most of all, always maintaining to be alive and in motion.
• Have an interesting life by adding diversity and originality to your personality, your relationships and your physical appearance. Never be boring and predictable. Always be well-groomed with a happy smile on your face. It will create an aura of fascination around you.
Every man wants his special woman to be an exciting, feminine, interesting, imaginative, mysterious, expressively touching and magically exotic! Above all, he wants his own Geisha girl.
What is a Geisha Girl?
Secrets of a Geisha girl is something many people wonder about. The mystical aura around the Geisha girl has been an intriguing fascinating phenomenon for centuries. She originates from Japan and was known as a woman pleasing men.
• Be an extraordinary woman. An emotionally and financially independent woman, therefore, never relies on any man for her well-being. She has her own place to stay, her own money and her dignity.
• Is well-trained in a specific skill and earns her own money from producing a product, is well-mannered, soft-spoken, well-educated and could fit with ease anywhere in society.
• She is ultra-feminine the way she dresses and her behaviour is impeccable, always cool, calm and collective with confidence, but behind closed doors, I believe she can be a tiger. One even married a Prince.
Secret Language of Relationships.
The Way Men Behave And Why
Commitment is a very important matter to a man. When he does, it means he is absolutely ready and sure to take you on as his responsibility. By making a promise it means he is serious.
A man will not commit, if he is not ready or if you are not The One. He will turn a blind eye when commitment is mentioned.
He has to contemplate, calculate and reason within himself to make sure before he makes that important decision.
You have to respect that. Until then he will play the field and discovers different personalities, searching for The One.
Women should learn from this experience to do the same instead of wanting to marry every Dick Tom and Harry she has an affair with. Take your time, explore and meet different men to make a better choice too.
On the other hand, a woman sees commitment as a dream comes true. She believes she will live ‘happily ever after’ with the man she has an affair with.
If a man does not say what she wants to hear, she will start manipulating and being demanding. She doesn’t take the time to know or try to gain the knowledge to understand the way men behave and why. Stop thinking about how you feel and turn the tables around.
A man and a woman need some ‘alone’ time, away from each other. He can spend time with friends or practising a sport.
Allow him some alone time with his friends once a week and you, on the other hand, you can visit a friend and have coffee together somewhere.
Missing each other will make you appreciate each other more and it will have its value.
Never discuss your partner or his behaviour with anybody especially not your friends. That stays private.
Come home and share your outing with your partner, make him part of your afternoon experience, but, do not share a secret your friend has trusted you with.
Sharing the experience with your partner will enhance your trust and intimacy in the partnership, consequently, it will strengthen your bond.
Why do men lie
“NO MATTER HOW GOOD A WOMAN YOU ARE, YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH TO A MAN WHO IS NOT READY” Michael Fiore.
That is the reason why men lie to a woman. When you get pushy and demanding he will say whatever it takes to keep you quiet, make you happy and say what you want to hear. It won’t be the truth, and then one day he will just disappear.
Impatience and ignorance on the side of a woman cause major confusion, for instance, it leads to misunderstandings and unhappiness.
A Man On A Mission
Men are focused and always on a mission to achieve a goal, therefore, they are not emotional beings.
In most men’s mind, His Mission Is Very Important To Him And Always Comes First. He would rather achieve his goal than make a commitment to a woman, therefore learn to respect the importance of that.
Remember, if you tick all his boxes of importance, he will most definitely see you as The One, and you become his mission. He will change some direction to get your approval, but once he has your commitment and he is ready to commit too, you are not a mission anymore.
It is a done deal and the goal is achieved, therefore, you have to understand the change in his mindset.
He will move to his next goal, maybe to better himself to get an increase in salary for the benefit of you both. Saving to buy you the house you want and start diverting his focus, inevitability, giving you less and less romantic attention.
Do not misjudge this and see him as being on the other side of the fence, leaving you behind. Not in the least, you are a team and a unit, most of all working together on the same side, he needs you by his side now.
Be his pillar and understand where he comes from. Talk about it and ask how you can help to make it easier on him to achieve that new goal benefiting you both as a couple. Support him and be right there where he needs you.
If you do not believe me, it is a pity and you are going to lose a lot.
The CORNERSTONES to a healthy, committed, loving, long-lasting, intimate relationship are RESPECT, APPRECIATION, TRUST and HONESTY to each other. ADORATION and DESIRE are the other two pillars supporting the intimacy behind closed doors, making it perfect.
In A Nutshell
● To a Woman, love means Commitment and Romance. She wants to feel SECURE, LOVED, HAPPY and SPECIAL in a monogamist relationship. A woman wants OBSESSION, DEVOTION and INTIMACY.
● To a Man, love means FUN TIME, SEX and EXCITEMENT with the woman of his choice, but he wants to feel SAFE, HAPPY, FREE and SECURE around you. A man wants RESPECT, APPRECIATION and ADMIRATION.
Never Try To Change A Man
● One last piece of advice, NEVER TRY TO CHANGE A MAN!
Don’t even try my dear, because, you are wasting valuable time. He will never change, and besides that, no one has the right to manipulate another person.
If his behaviour is not what you want it to be, never try to conform him to make it work, because, it is never going to happen. It is a clear sign you are not meant to be together. The relationship will NEVER be a happy one.
Accept it, end the relationship without feeling guilty or pity, especially not for yourself. Above all, you are doing both of you a favour.
Move on and search till you find the one who has all you want, he is out there, you just have to find him. Do not sit back and wait for him, my dear.
Make a list of all the characteristics important to you, what behaviour is important to you in a man and who you want him to be.
What will your Lover, Best Friend and Hero BE like and not LOOK like? Go out and search for him.
Make friends and try to meet as many men as possible, watch, listen and observe.
Never, go by what a man says, it is what he does that is important. Do his words match his acts?
Be elusive and do not become too serious too soon. Make an informed decision that will last for the rest of your life. Do it with an open mind but not open legs, my love.
It is important to know that a happy relationship has many secrets. To have a successful long-lasting relationship, pay attention to the other person and learn new tricks and skills.
Everybody loves differently, some flourishes on spoken words other loves to touch hug and kiss, gifts does it for some and to do favours is another way to show your loved one your love.
It is good to pay attention, even more, it will help you to realize and know the secret language of a happy partnership. You might have to find a way to change a few habits but it is worth it, my dear.
Your loving Gran
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