Health and Relationships


Dear Minette,

Minette by the pool


Did you know that the quality of a relationship influences your health? Your relationships and health are so closely related.

Dr Cora says When you stick to a diet of healthy food, you’re setting yourself up for fewer mood fluctuations, an overall happier outlook and an improved ability to focus. It also helps with symptoms of depression and anxiety.

Health and Relationships Vegetables, Cartoon, Root Vegetables, Running, Waving

Stress plays a huge role. If any of your relationships are under stress, it harms your health and vice versa. It could lead to hypertension, eating disorders or even heart disease.


It is Hormones, Health and Relationships that keep us going.



The thoughts, everyday situations and events, trigger feelings that in their turn, trigger a chemical reaction in your brain. It is mostly emotional messages that have a positive or negative effect.

Rarely enough, certain foods you eat can also have the same effect and all influence your moods.


It acts as a very important biochemical messenger, sending messages, received from your five senses to your brain along with the neurotransmitters, with either a good or bad message.


Your Health and Relationships An abstract human Brain and messages written on it areas

Your brain will send a distress message to run for survival and your muscles will, therefore, react in a certain way to get you away from danger. Sometimes it triggers an emotion, through memories in your mind, that makes you laugh or cry.

The mind reacts to these messages with immediate effect and it shows in your behaviour.


The quality of your relationship matters to the extent that it can help to prevent cardiovascular disease and depression. It has a direct influence on your metabolism, sleeping patterns, and mood swings.


Studies found that people, unhappy in a relationship, have a negative outlook, depression and many times poor health. Positive social engagement is one of the most important factors of longevity.

Make sure to be a happy person. People will want to be with you because it makes them feel good and that is a win-win situation.


Lifestyle and Habits play a huge role in your health and happiness. It spills over into your relationships and affects the quality of your connections.

Your brain is the big regulator, its task is to keep the balance perfectly. It reacts to the messages it gets from the neurotransmitters and adjusts accordingly.


Picture of the Neural network in brainA happy relationship is responsible for the feel-good hormones released in your brain, making you feel happy and healthy. It happens through incidents that create the feelings that will dictate your behaviour.

You can also enhance the function of the neurotransmitters, sending messages in your body, with certain foods and exercise.


Let’s have a look and see how it creates the feelings you experience.


Firstly, I have to say, there are no good or bad hormones. All have a function and a role to play. One without the other will create more health problems.

Like anything else in life, the magic is to keep the balance. When out of balance, the good ones can have bad effects on the body too, but in general, this is how it is perceived. The best way is to eat healthy to be healthy.


Health and Relationships and Hormones

Feel-Good Hormones

  1.  Dopamine.

  2.  Serotonin.

  3. Oxytocin

  4.  Endorphins.


The Feel Good Hormones

1. Dopamine

Benefits for the Body

  • You will be willing to listen to one another more often and have more patience

  • Prepared to compromise. Communicate openly without judgment

  • Teammates in every situation and engage with each other

  • Remember dates and details about each other’s lives

  • Have similar interests and do activities together

  • Couples respect and trust each other more.


Activities to enhance Dopamine

  •  Exercise daily, alter between high intensity and super slow movements for 15 min

  •  Get at least 7 hours of sleep

  •  Practice Yoga or Meditate every day, go into a calm state of mind

  •  Listen to music

  •  Sauerkraut, pickles and kefir is natural probiotics

  •  Eat more Protein, meat, eggs, cheese, nuts, and beans in particular black beans

  •  Eat less saturated fats


Foods to Eat

  • Eggs

  • Nuts such as walnuts and almonds

  • Picture of a wheel of cheese and walnutsVegetables and fruit in particular bananas

  • Salmon, Sardines and Mackerel

  • Unprocessed meats such as beef, chicken, pork and turkey

  • All dairy products, milk, yoghurt, cheese, and butter

  • Best of all Dark Chocolate


2. Serotonin

The Benefits for the Body

Maybe best-known as, the happiness hormone. It helps regulate your moods, appetite, memory, digestive system and sexual desires.


Activities that will enhance Serotonin

  •  Exercise daily

  •  Spend time in the sun and nature

  •  Meditate daily or practice Yoga, keeping the mind calm

  •  Eat healthy in particular Omega-3 fatty acid

  •  Reminiscent of happy memories

  •  The feeling of greatness and gratitude when you reach a goal

  •  Use your sense of smell and taste. The smell of freshly baked bread and walking past a coffee shop, the aromas recall happy memories. The use of essential oils like Lavender has a calming effect as well.


Foods to Eat

  • Eggs

  • Milk

  • Tofu

  • Nuts

  • Turkey

  • Spinach

  • Pineapples

  • Salmon
  • Seeds



3. Oxytocin

The Love Hormone

Benefits for the Body

Well known, as the hormone that promotes warm fuzzy feelings of love, and makes social bonding and well-being possible. It all happens when you touch and cuddle a loved one.


Activity that enhances the release of Oxytocin

  • Share something with somebody, from a kiss to a memory.

  • Practise an activity that gives excitement, for instance, a computer game, a roller coaster ride or bungee jumping

  • Get socially involved and focus on others

  • Soak and relax in a bubble bath

  • The excitement of giving someone a gift

  • Become a visual listener, use pictures to learn something

  • Stroke and cuddle your pet


Foods to Eat

  • Green tea

  • Spinach

  • Avocado

  • Watermelon

    Healthy fruit Watermelon cut in half

  • Figs



4. Endorphins

It is similar in structure to the drug morphine. Concentrating in the specific area in the brain alleviates pain, and give the feeling of euphoria, all-natural.

The Benefits for the Body

  • Helps you deal with the pain

  •  Reduce anxiety and stress

  •  Helps with weight control

  •  Boost confidence and self-esteem

  •  Helps to keep depression in check

  •  Give the Feel-Good feeling


Activities to enhance the release of Endorphins

  •  Do Cardiovascular and aerobic exercise, get the heartbeat up and sweat a little. Take a bike ride or run in nature. Walk in the sand on the beach.

  •  Drink wine, in particular dry red wine.

  •  Make love

  •  Laugh a lot

  •  Give each other an essential oil massage

  •  Practice Yoga or Meditate


Foods to Eat

  •  Eat spicy foods

  •  Chocolates and Strawberries

  • Animal meats, eggs and dairy

Your Health and Relationships Grapes and Oranges

  • Ginseng

  •  Seeds and nuts

  •  Fruit like grapes and oranges


Hormones with a Bad Reputation

The Bad Boys

There are no bad hormones. Every one of them has a function in your body.

Hormones that have negative Affects

  1.  Cortisol

  2.  Adrenaline

  3.  Norepinephrine, also called noradrenaline


Human behaviour

Isolation is the biggest factor to triggers these hormones. Being negative, unhappy and stressed can have the effect that people will avoid being with you.

They do not avoid you, as a person, they still love you, but it is your behaviour that scares them away.


The risk of obesity, inflammation and high blood pressure can be caused by social isolation.



1. Cortisol

Known as the Stress Hormone

The security system of the body sends out stress signals if something is out of balance. It is wise to recognise the signs. If you do not give attention, it will create havoc in the body and make you sick.


Find the problem, solve it and all will be peaceful again. In other words, don’t ignore and blame. As an example, I have a cardiac problem, I know part of it was an emotional problem that caused it. I realized it and rectify it, all is now well again.


Benefits for the Body

  • It plays a beneficiary role if in normal status

  • Regulates your sleeping patterns

  • Help to keep inflammation in check

  • Boosts your energy levels

  • Restore the body to normal after stressful situations

  • Regulates blood pressure and blood sugar levels


Activities for Cortisol

  • Meditate or practice Yoga

  • Regular aerobic exercises

Your Health and Relationships Girl playing her guitar as a hobby.

  • Listen to music or play an instrument

  • Practice a hobby

  • Eat less sugar when obese


2. Adrenaline

The warning system of the body.

Benefits for the Body

  • Enlarge the pupils of your eyes

  • Increase your heart rate, normal heart rate is around 70 to 75 beats per minute

  • Relaxing your air passages for easier breathing

  • Change in the rate of your metabolism

  • Directing more blood to your muscles


Activities for Adrenaline

  • Deep breathing exercises with slow movements

  • Meditating to calm the mind

  • Eat a balanced diet, concentrating on foods for hormones

  • Have a bedtime schedule

  • Limit alcohol

  • Avoid processed foods, foods in a tin, caffeine and sugar


4. Norepinephrine

This is the hormone that causes mood swings from feeling happy the one moment to having panic attacks next. Making you excited, impulsive, lower inhibitions and in the process make bad choices. Alcohol can enhance the situation.


Many people suffer from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), so here is the culprit.

Treat with great care.


Benefits for the Body

  • This is the alert system of the body

  • It increases alertness and arousal

  • Helps with focus and attention when normal

  • Builds memory and helps to retrieve it


Activities for Norepinephrine

  • Meditation or Yoga

  • Calming music.

  • Reaching small goals.

  • Regular sleep pattern

  • Daily exercise

Girls face covered in dark chocolate body paint

  • Eating dopamine-rich foods such as dark chocolate, or even licking body paint will do.



In conclusion my dear, a happy relationship is dependent on good health. Eat a healthy diet. Listen to your body, it gives you signals all the time.


Pay attention, learn to recognize them and act immediately. If you look closely you will see a golden thread of similarities weaved through them all. Find it and live by it.


Know what is best for you, your body, and your mind. Your Health and Relationships affect your emotions and moods.

Treat them both with the necessary respect and you will have a wonderful balanced happy content life.

Until the next time, take care, my dear.



Be Fabulous, Feisty and Fearless


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10 Comments on “Health and Relationships”

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable knowledge in such a beautiful way. I felt as if my granny was talking to me. But also that there was a lot of research, facts and experience. So wonderful how you explain the function of famous and not so famous hormones, but also explain what we can do in our everyday life, especially food and exercise to enhance them.
    What a great idea, I will come back for guidance and can’t wait to read your next letter!
    Thank you so much

    1. Thank you for your comment I really appreciate it Janie. It inspires and motivates!
      Yes it is good to know there are ways to balance the scale. Simple everyday things that we can do to leviate pressure and stress.
      Thanks for stopping by.

  2. I enjoyed ready the information on your site the joy of Grand children is wonderful and to read about the things the minds can do with your health and relationships the greatest relationship to have is with your grandchildren I will find myself coming back to this site to read up on things. This is wonderful Information.

    1. Hi Karen, I only have the joy of one grandchild, and it is a treasure.
      Thank you for stopping by and your kind and motivating words, I appreciate it.
      You are welcome and hope to see you again.

  3. Hi there. Thanks for your post on the correlation between the relationships you have with others and your health. I also appreciate your linking the correlation between the foods we eat and our moods. I can relate. I find that when I don’t talk to certain family members for a while, I feel good. That may seem like a horrible thing to say, but it’s true unfortunately. I’m always on high alert when I talk to certain members of my family. So I did an experiment: I tried not talking to them and immediately found that my mood improved. Go figure. Also, with the food – sugar makes me depressed. Following a low carb diet elevates my mood. Great job on this post.

    1. Hi Shalisa, thank you for a great comment.
      It is so good to learn to know your body and how foods effect you.
      Some foods might be toxic to your system and so do certain people. Both can have a negative effect on you, that is when we use the word toxic.
      Best way to treat that is to identify and avoid the toxic food and people.
      Put yourself first and practise self-love. You fill your life only with stuff that will enhance it!
      Take care.

  4. “Studies found that people, unhappy in a relationship, have a negative outlook, depression and many times poor health.” This is like the ‘chicken and egg…’ Which one comes first? Being unhappy, or the bad relationship which causes us to become unhappy? It doesn’t really matter which one. The thing we should be focused on is how to make our lives better.
    Since our moods/emotions are a result of the chemical reactions in our brains, this is where the remedies can be found.
    I like the common thread of yoga and meditation in your list of ways to enhance the ‘feel good hormones’ while subsequently reducing the ‘not so good hormones.’

    “Positive social engagement is one of the most important factors of longevity.” I like this message.
    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Andrew thank you for taking the time!
      Yes very true, unhappiness always goes much deeper that you think and hormones out of balance can be the cause of mood swings and bad health.
      Good and bad habits also contribute to our quality of life and health. Creating good ones benefit all.
      Meditation is a way to stop the mind and body running away, it is a good habit that will lead to calmness and normality.
      I love the Zen music you have on offer on your site, it is excellent!
      Thank you for a valuable comment Andrew, I appreciate it!

  5. Hi Estelle,
    I really enjoyed reading your post on relationships and health. I went through a divorce several years back and it took a toll on me. The stress just ravages the body, and I had to start eating better, and exercising, doing yoga and meditation. I didn’t realize just how hard stress is on the body, and how much better I felt from eating better.
    Your post is explaining a lot of what I went through and why I started to feel better. Once we get the hormones settled down, life is much more enjoyable. I know that the exercise also helped me get over the depression of a divorce. I will bookmark this page and be returning to read more on your site!

    1. Hi Chas, it is heartwarming to know you find something of value in the post.
      Eating healthy and wholesome is a challenge, but when your body tells you it is time, there is no way of denying it.
      We all know what is important and healthy and when you see it black and white it has a huge impact and a different meaning.
      So sorry to hear about what you went through, some has the courage, the rest just live with it, which is worst sometimes.
      Hormones are the invisible culprit of many things, your emotions, health and growth, to get that in balance is not an easy task.
      Thank you for stopping by, your valuable comment and sharing, I appreciate it!
      There is another site full of related info too, I will list it below.

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