Good morning my dear Minette
Being kind and compassionate is a process and a soft skill you can learn. You will gain reassurance, confidence and courage when developing your strengths to find the way you can help other people. Start with small improvements and slowly progress. Work hard to get better at your skills and confidence will follow.
Confidence develops with kindness and helping others. It is a means of getting validation of your values and who you are, my dear. The capability to believe and most of all, trust and value yourself puts you in control. How to gain confidence is not that difficult, you already have all the tools.
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How Do I Gain Confidence
Let’s see what the life of a confident person looks like:
13 Qualities of a Confident Person
Positive attitude. Always see the bright side of a situation, be able to find solutions, be happy and laugh a lot. Be known as the friendly lady.
You love and accept who you are. Believe in yourself and know you are capable.
Respect is admiration for the values, behaviour and achievements of a person, that put them in high esteem. Be that person.
Be grateful for what you have and appreciate what others have. Never compare and feel envious, Be happy and feel thankful for what you have.
Only speak when you are certain of your facts and you can contribute with confidence. Refrain from saying “I don’t know”, rather say nothing.
Be modest, but do share your success if asked. The best is to ask questions and let other people tell you about their experiences, they love it. Bragging comes from low self-confidence.
Assertiveness is making statements in a firm tone of voice. It is a quality of self-assurance without being aggressive or rude. Think twice before speaking your mind and then do it calmly and diplomatically.
Do the right thing, and judge your behaviour against your values. To live with integrity feeds confidence.
Be authentic and an individualist with your own opinion. Don’t follow the crowd and become a nobody.
Live with responsibility. Stop blaming and complaining. Be accountable for your actions.
Stick to your word and do what you promised. You are a slave of your promises, make sure never to over-commit.
Dress for success. It brings confidence to look and feel good. Say to the mirror: “You look gorgeous” and then forget about it. Never dress sloppy, always feel sexy and attractive, even when cleaning.
Hang out with people more powerful than you, people you want to learn from. Your environment influences who you are and how you behave. You become like the five people close to you every day. Have a good look around!
How Do I Gain Confidence
What are my Strengths
Self-confidence comes from knowing who you are. Find your strengths and weaknesses. Everybody has a weakness or two. Know and acknowledge yours. Find people who will compensate for your weaknesses in your support group.
Do introspection and make a list of the things you love to do. Focus on how you would like to help other people and develop those skills. This is a good start. Those are the strengths to focus on to become an expert.
What are you good at
Identify your strengths:
I have patience
Disciplined and dedicated
I am trustworthy, reliable and responsible
Compassionate and always ready to help
Find ways to become the ultimate master of your skills, and be an authority. One way to learn is practice and practice, practice, practice.
Take courses and do self-study. No need to have a university degree. The practical knowledge you gain will create the confidence you want.
How Do I Gain Confidence
Someone with a spiritual belief has an anchor which will make them stronger. It gives you a sense of belonging. Whatever your belief is hold on to it and use it as your foundation to build a strong character for confidence.
How to develop a strong character
Love and Believe in Yourself
Accepted who you are and love yourself. They are two of the pillars of confidence. You will release dopamine in your body. It makes you feel excited, happy, and secure. You can do anything!
Your inner voice has a way to feed fabricated negative information into your conscious mind and therefore, stealing your confidence.
Keep a watch over your thoughts, don’t let them have the last say. Suppress and ignore it, kick it to the curb. Replace the negative with affirmations of gratitude and appreciation for the strengths you have, and focus on your achievements. You are worth it.
Previous generations believed, to be humble is a virtue, the same as being overly compassionate. It mostly occurs in the absence of self-pride and can be a threat to your confidence.
Your future and success are dependent on what you think and believe. Build a self-belief that you are capable of achieving anything and that nothing is going to stop you.
In confidence push the boundaries of your comfort zone, and find new exciting horizons.
Until next time, take care.