How To Create My Success

Dear Thinette

Thinette my granddaughter



How to find your bright future? Your dreams, your goals and success depends on it. The bigger your dreams, the stronger the foundation will have to be. That will mean more training and knowledge, have special skills, and a stronger character to create your success.

10 Quotes That'll Inspire You to Dream Big - The Muse


5 Steps How to Build the Foundation for Your Future

The Way To Go

  • Selecting a mission is the first step. What is it you want to do? Select a career that is in demand and still be there in the next 20 years.

  • Ask Why you want to pursue this? Find your mission.

  • Next is the blueprint, The Plan. Your plan of action. What to do and How to do it to reach your goals.

  • The solid Foundation is next. Get yourself ready to learn all there is to learn and more. Invest in yourself, be prepared to pay if you want to learn more.

  • Enlist to the best training you can get and become an authority in your field. If there is no money for studies, do not use that as an excuse. Find a job and most importantly, save every cent to get what you want, many successful people started with nothing.

  • Don’t let failure stand in your way, just do it again! People will certainly have more respect for your determination.

  • Start building your Empire, brick by brick and step by step. Never stop learning and always apply what you learn.

  • Be committed and do what you have planned.

It is best to make a decision that will last a lifetime. Any success is built with desire and determination.

For that reason, so many young adults take a year called a Gap Year. Cut loose from childhood, clear your mind to make the transition into adulthood smoother and to decide what your future will be. Some select a few options, do some temporary work at each, therefore be certain of what you want.

The Four Cornerstones

How to Build the Foundation for my Future Building with four cornerstones

It is wise to make sure having the right mindset, attitude and the


ultimate four cornerstones is in place.


~ Desire to make your dream come true.

~ Determination to be persistent. 

~ Dedication, to learn more and the

~ Discipline, to keep going until you reach success. 

Search and research to be able to make the best-informed decisions you can. Take time and make sure to build on a solid foundation, my dear with the best knowledge and experience.  

The whole wide world is waiting with lots of opportunities. You have a new serious adventure on hand, because building the foundation for your future is of utmost importance. Success and best of all, happiness is depending on your choices. Choose wisely and go and get it, my dear. Approach this phase of your life on your best foot.

Effect of the Past

  • Growing up, you were part of a family, therefore being exposed to certain rules and values. This behaviour had a huge impact on who you are. Now it is time to find your way and set your own standards. 

  • Families tend to have family traditions, some are good and some are not so good. All I know is, when it is as a result, restricting your thoughts and mind, it is not good.

  • It is also part of a system from schools and churches, for instance, to manipulate people in a subtle way to fit into a social pattern. Walking the streets like obedient faceless ghosts, subsequently, too afraid to do or say something out of the ordinary.

  • Coming of age, entering this new phase you, have to parent and guide your own life now. No one taught you how to, therefore, the easiest way is to follow what you have learned and saw at home, repeating the same pattern.

  • The biggest influence in anyone’s life is the cultural and family habits. Some of these habits form part of a control system for generations, which keeps you from being who you want to be. You get taught not to think for yourself by the system. 

  • Being strict, with the do-as-I-say attitude, was the norm when our generation grew up therefore so many adults are unhappy because of that attitude, resulting in an inferiority complex.

  • In the past it might have worked, but most definitely not with the Millennium kids. Knowledge is the key, and above all, your own strong opinions. Select and find your own values and habit pattern.

  • Love yourself and build a strong relationship with your inner self. You have become a different person, most of all, you have your own vision and opinion.

  • To build the foundation of your future of choice, first of all, to guide you to find your own way, it is very important.

Vision of my Future

New Attitude

Let’s sweep your mind a clean slate my dear, in fact, just keep the good manners, and most of all, the integrity you have learned at home.

Break loose, but, stay the loving family member, become your own confident person, without judgement. Every generation has to change and adapt for survival, therefore, your parents went through the same process with their parents years ago, don’t feel alone in your struggle.

Walk away from the flock of sheep, and best of all, become unique.

How to Build the Foundation for my Future Sheep standing up facing the other way than the rest of the flock being different.

Start building your basis on knowledge and experience, my darling. I can not stress that enough! Be specific and name your destination, furthermore, what are your goals and how you want to achieve it.

Very important  to have a timeline, putting a date when you will achieve each goals.

Begin At The Goal Post

A suggestion my dear, where do you see yourself in forty years time, above all, when and where will wish to retire? I know I know … you are not thinking of that now at this stage of your life, but you should.

Did you know, the main purpose of you getting a job, therefore working all your life, is to secure a good retirement plan?

No one realises or even think of it in that way.

How would you hope to spend your life at my age? Building the foundation to your future. Woman with no money sitting in the street begging -for-money Living a financially carefree happy life, for instance having enough money to live your dream comfortably. In contrast, you might be living in someone’s backyard waiting for handouts?

Now is the time to think and evidently, start planning.


If you can think it,  most certainly it can be done!   

Great granddad Willie always said, “No problem is ever too big. All problems can be solved, no matter how difficult the obstacle, there is always a way out, and a silver lining.”

Analyse any task or problem, first of all, break it up into sections and start solving it step by step.

Think out the box or around it.

Let’s dream big

Your Possible Destinations.

  • You will be on the Mediterranean on your yacht with friends.

  •  Travelling in luxury around the world, furthermore, visit all the countries you want.

  • To live in the mansion of your dreams, in addition, driving a supercar.

  • Maybe you anticipate to have it all, therefore, your planning should be accordingly. Give it your all, and plan diligently.

  • Anything and everything in life is possible but, there are certain disciplines and conditions to achieve it.

How To Build The Foundation

 How to Build the Foundation for my Future Girl with notebook and laptop planning how to achieve goals.

  Setting goals and achieving dreams.


•   Do some detailed planning

•   The four D‘s are essential

Is desire big enough to get what you want? First of all, find the answers to the WHY? Ask it to the same question a minimum of three times, later you can go more until you come full circle.

Have the Desire, Discipline and Determination to achieve it, most importantly, Dedication holds the key.

Having the correct mindset as well as, perseverance is absolutely important.


Recognition for Success

  •  To get recognition in life, first of all, you have to become an expert in your field of knowledge and an authority with experience, darling Thinette. Search, research, learn and train relentlessly to have the ability to be the expert.

  • Very wise to apply the knowledge you gained and use it in experiences on your way.

  • Therefore, never stop reading, make it your mission to become an authority with the best skills. You will earn trust and respect with knowledge and experience.

  •  Give yourself credit for all your achievements

  •  Never be forward with your knowledge.

  •  Listen and  Observe.

  •  Always be the last to speak.



How to find your career is to build the foundation to your future as strong as you can my dear. First of all, have a plan with goals. Set goals, most importantly, goals with deadlines. It is the only way to achieve success.

The sooner you start, the sooner you will see and earn the fruit of your hard-earned labour, and in the process, making your retirement lifestyle a dream come true.

Love you.

Granny Stella.

Granny Stella

Inspire Motivate And Empower The Next Generation



18 Comments on “How To Create My Success”

  1. Thank you sweeheart, this was very encouraging to hear. I am grateful for people like you. This was sound advice, you should not give up until you get where you want to go! Dedication is important.

    1. Hi Robert
      Glad you found it a good read.
      The motivation and dedication is there thank you.
      Thanks for your comment.

  2. Yes, if you can think it, you can do it, absolutely. great advice Stella, and Yes I like the part about dreaming big and breaking away from the sheep and being unique, wow! amazing. Desire big enough to get what you want, that quote should be on a T-shirt.
    Thank you, Stella. great post

    1. If only we will realise how controlled and manipulative our society is. I want to shake people and wake up them up to be their own uniquely self, not a follower but become a leader.
      You are an original … no other one like you.
      Thank you for another great comment Rose!

  3. Hi Stella,

    Another great letter. You are so right when you say that school, teachers and the culture lead you on the path of basically a zombie. Do this, do that, obey the rules, don’t think for yourself. So many people are like sheep living a life of quiet desperation as Thoreau said.

    Your granddaughter is so lucky…no…I don’t like the word lucky, she is blessed to have someone like you in her life,


    1. If people will just realise those who dictate the zombie rules are using you for there own benefit.

      Thank you for a very motivatng comment I appreciate it.


  4. Hi Stella. This is great advice for everyone. To move away from the mindless herd mentality that is so prevalent within societies is so important if we wish to achieve satisfaction and fulfillment in life. Setting goals is the way to begin creating the future that we desire for ourselves.
    I wished someone had asked me to consider where I wanted to be 40 years down the road when I was young! What a great way to get a young mind to consider what they want to achieve in their lives.
    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    1. Thank you Andrew it is a challenge to get the young motivated to think this way and to realise the importance of thinking and planning if your mind is only focused on the the pleasures in life. Hopefully they will come to their sences in time as we know how important it is.

  5. I am beginning to see Stella needs to turn this into a full fledged book for the masses both young and older.

    Wonder what each one of us who are reading Stella’s letters might do, or might have done, with all these great thoughtful words of wisdom had we received letters like these in earlier times.

    I hope that all who are fortunate to have grandchildren might take the time to at least share these letters with the grandkids. I am sure the current generation would not understand the meaning of a handwritten set of letters like this from their grandparent(s). I might be wrong and would be more than happy to admit my wrong thinking!

    1. Thank you Barry for you motivating comment. I just honour the wisdom of my wise parents. My greatest wish is if it can only benefit one young one.
      Knowing it is a hard task to reach them from this angle when their minds are just focused on all the pleasures life has to offer.
      Staying hopeful

  6. Thank you for your letters, I needed to read them this morning. Continue to write them!
    And thank you,

  7. This is so different, I love how your advice is through letters, very creative and beneficial at the same time! Thank you!

    1. Thanks for approving the style Sahar!
      The only way to reach the young.
      Many more letters to come.
      Happy reading

  8. Altered Soul says:

    This is a very good post! It reminds me of some of the fundamentals in a book I’m reading right now called “The code of the extraordinary mind”. I really recommend you read it as it contains very important training on not just Learning but also HOW TO LEARN! The most important thing to learn at all. Unfortunately, most places of education never teach the kids this so they end up not learning and hating school instead.

    Thanks for another great letter!

    1. I will definitely read this book.
      All this old fashioned kind of teachings are nowhere to be found.
      It is so true everything is of a lesser kind and focus on irelavant issues. Thank yoy for a very good point you are making.
      Enjoy reading.

  9. Hi Stella,

    Another great letter to your granddaughter. Anyone reading this will also get some help and guidance. With the list of personality characteristics that you had, i was able to assess myself. Thanks to this.

    1. Thank you for a very inspiring comment.
      Glad to know it will serve a greater purpose as I originally thought.
      Keep on reading.

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