How To Create Your Own Happiness

Dear beloved Thinette

Thinette smiling



How to create your own happiness, to feel content confident and happy to love yourself? How do we do that, my dear?

First of all, love who you are, because you are enough.

Only you can create that feeling. Begin by accepting and loving yourself.

Nothing and nobody matters, it has to come from within, and the rest will fall into place.


How To Create Your Own Happiness

What makes me Happy and Why?

Is it events, happenings, people or things? Could it be the feelings you get when you accomplish something on your own? I have to say, to depend on things, other people and happenings have proved to be very short-lived, and never bring real happiness.


You know what is best for you, therefore, only you can make it happen. Find what really brings the sparkle to your eyes and the hop in your step. It can be a bright and sunny day that lifts your spirit, maybe, a goal you have achieved?


  • Attitude has a lot to do with your happiness and how you feel my dear. There are two ways to interpret the word ‘Attitude’.


  • According to the behaviour of a person, having an ‘Attitude’ can mean a person with a high level of confidence and self-esteem bordering on arrogance but are always happy.


  • Another person can also have an ‘Attitude’ but has a low level of confidence and self-worth that borders on depression.


  • One is positive and the other one has a negative influence. It all depends on the thoughts feeding the mind, as a result, causing the behaviour of the person.


Best is, have a positive frame of mind, noteworthy to create sunshine and happiness around you.


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One’s thoughts, behaviour and attitude have a direct link to your happiness. What kind of person are you? It depends on what you feed your mind, what thoughts are dominant in your life, positive or native.


  • Then there are people who are Neutral and has no feelings or emotions, they are normally lazy people, waiting for others to do everything and are just floating along, have no life at all.


How To Create Your Own Happiness

10 Ways to Create Happiness.

  • Be Grateful. Find 5 things to be grateful for every day. Look around and see what you have, not just worldly goods but friends, health, sunshine, family, etc.


  • Never envy another person, as they say, you do not know the fine print coming with that parcel. Focus on your happiness and leave the rest to their own. Don’t sit back and be satisfied, always plan for a bigger and better life. 


  • Surround Yourself with People that love you. Feel nourished and save. It has a positive effect.


  • Associate with people who inspire you, people you would like to become, people that will enhance your life. Be around friends that will pull you up to their level and not pull you down to their level. 


  • Do Something you love and keep learning, educate yourself non stop. Be creative and think of a neglected interest. Dig out the easel, canvas and paint brushes. Play your guitar or piano again. Go to the movies, or play squash with a friend. Do some potting in the garden, do something that makes you happy. Laugh and have fun as much as you can How to be happy Create your own Happiness.  Having a hobby, potting small plants with mud on your fingers in their containers

  • Walk with vigour and vitality and a smiling face in the shopping centre. See the positive effect it has on other people, greet them loudly and share a compliment or two. It is very satisfying to see how their faces lit up, making their day a better one.


  • Look and Find the Good in every situation. In the bigger picture, there is always a purpose for every experience, either good or bad. There might be a lesson to learn. This is where the saying ‘Every dark cloud has a silver lining’ comes from my dear.


  • Go Back to Nature.

    How To Be Happy, Create your own Happiness, see little things around you, the butterfly and n bee on a purple flowe

    Leave the rat-race for a while and focus on the essence of life. Not necessary to go on a hiking trip, a stroll in nature is also good, watering the plants and potter in the garden, watch the beauty of a flower, the butterflies and the bees.


  • Lie on the grass and look at the clouds drifting by, seeing the different formations and identify faces or animals in them as the wind blows.


  • Trust your gut instinct. When in doubt over anything, listen to your inner voice. Your first thoughts are normally the ones to follow. It is your subconscious mind guiding you.


  • Write Down Your Thoughts. Have a journal or a file on your computer but, pen and paper are better. Write down your thoughts of the day, negative or positive and how did it make you feel. 


  • Do Something for Someone. Your help might be needed, visit an elderly person and ask if there is something you can bring from the town they need or wash their hair. Give someone in need money to buy food. You will reap what you sow, it is the law of the Universe. It is the first step on the ladder to confidence and happiness, focus on someone else in need.


  • Be the change. Begin by changing and become what inspires you. Take charge and become what you wish for, start living that life. Become a person who influences and motivate.


How To Create Your Own. Girl by the sea jumping on the beach with joy



Realise Happiness  comes from deep inside yourself, my love. How To Create Your Own Happiness is a mindset and attitude that will set you free. Nobody else can do it for you.

You are the architect of your happiness in this mad mad world we live in.

Wishing you all the happiness in the world my darling Thinette!

Gran Estelle

Gran Stella

Inspire Motivate And Empower The Next Generation



2 Comments on “How To Create Your Own Happiness”

  1. Good day to you,
    I enjoyed your letter and liked how you inserted links to other letters. I used the links and read some of those letters as well. You write from the heart and I personally experience men have agendas and women are emotions when trying to talk to my daughters.

    1. Thomas yes you are right women are emotional beings and will never change because they can’t.

      Men has to find the magic way to deal with it, speak softly and gently at all times and you are halfway there … lol
      Treat your wife as your Queen and your daughters as your princesses and guide them as such even if you feel like sending them to the gauntlet.

      I believe men only have an agenda with women they don’t respect, don’t you agree?

      Thank you for a valuable comment.

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