Dear Thinette
Gran, what do you mean? What is it I have to know? Is there a secret on how to get your guy? It is not easy, I keep on meeting the wrong men
So glad you asked my dear, yes there is and the focus is not on him, not at all. The recipe of this secret is, to focus on your well-being before you can meet your man.
Until you have followed this recipe or you will not know how to get your guy. You will keep on attracting the wrong men for all the wrong reasons.
Become uniquely you. Have a vision and know what you want and where you want to go. This is the magic recipe, my dear. The man of your dreams will find you in the crowds and want you for the right reasons.
How To Get The Your Guy
Getting ready
Ask yourself; Am I ready to meet my perfect match and have a happy carefree relationship? Am I confident and do I still have goals I want to achieve, before going into a committed relationship and sharing my life?
You have to be a strong, motivated individual on a mission, and most of all, emotionally and financially stable and independent. This makes you a balanced and ideal partner.
How To Get The Your Guy
HOW TO BECOME A MENTALLY STRONG WOMAN
Have you seen women crumbling under pressure, losing themselves and becoming hysterical? It is never good to see when a pretty woman loses control, panics and shouts it is very humiliating.
MEN ADORE A STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN
She cares about her physical, mental, and emotional well-being and takes steps to love herself.
Become the master of one of your talents, it gives confidence
Never feel the victim. Be brave and stand up for what you believe in. Have a balanced outlook and stay calm.
Be productive and create new experiences.
To be kind and caring is a virtue.
Be a go-getter and change all obstacles
Distance yourself for a moment from the problem, and most importantly, look at it from the other side of the fence.
How To Overcome Trauma
There is an art to handling a traumatic experience as a strong woman.
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First of all, stay calm
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Give yourself permission to feel sad, upset and angry, express yourself and live it out. Throw a dozen eggs against a wall, if it will make you feel better, my dear. [Remember to clean up afterwards]
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Pull the covers over your head.
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Cry your eyes out and feel sorry for yourself.
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Try to figure out what happened and accept what happened.
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In the end, nothing happens without a reason. Later you will realise it was for the best, though now it looks like the end of the world.
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Analyse and acknowledge the facts, my darling. Take responsibility for your share.
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Don’t take forever to recover. Remember it is water under the bridge, and nothing can bring it ever back.
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Get over it, no time to waste and ponder on it.
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Move on and create a new life.
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Get ready for the new exciting thing waiting around the corner
A relationship that makes you feel sad and upset most of the time, is not worth it.
Change your survival attitude
Get yourself up and going, simultaneously, focus on yourself, and get ready for the next best thing.
My Appearance Physically and Mentally
When going on a date, you always make sure to look your best, therefore clean and well-groomed. Stylish clothes and hair immaculate for the occasion, butterflies in your tummy making the moment perfect.
That is the glossy outside he can see, but what about the clutter inside. Uncertainties, low self-esteem and emotional baggage you are dragging around? It will never make you feel confident.
Are you still an unorganised mess, with tangled thoughts, a knot of stress and a turmoil of emotions? The best will be if you can feel inside just as well-groomed as outside, for instance confident, calm, content and happy with all your emotions intact.
We are going to try our best to create a groomed personality to match the smile on your face and give him a surprise he was not expecting.
Let us start working to get you ready, my love to know how to get your guy.
Get yourself in the best physical shape you can, it clears the mind and keeps you motivated.
Develop unique skills and find a stable occupation to support your lifestyle.
Be self-sufficient and do not depend on a man to support you.
Have your own group of friends and activities.
How To Get The Your Guy
Be Aware Of All The Gremlins
Your behaviour.
It is wise never to compare yourself to other people. You will never be like them, believe in being uniquely you!
• Never act out of desperation or go on the rebound. Never act crazy or do silly things. Keep yourself together. Be calm, and composed and try to act normal, though you don’t feel like it. That is where your strength lies.
• Listen to your intuition it will never fail you you will have your solution right there.
• Do not get let jealousy, gets the better of you, my dear it does not become you and is never an answer to a lost or fading relationship. Move on because you know now how to get your guy.
• Hold on … have faith in yourself … EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!
• Remember all have a purpose and in addition, you will benefit from it and learn a lesson.
Surrender to what has happened. You can not change it.
SEE REALITY FOR WHAT IT IS AND NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS.
How To Get The Your Guy
Become a Mystery Woman
Men like mystery, be elusive and never an open book. Give him small bits of information at a time about who you are. Never all at once.
To become a mysterious, magnetic, beautiful extraordinary happy woman, is the secret to catching the eye of a special man.
It is time to clean out old useless habits, those making you one of the flock. Here are a few new habits:
• Confidence is very important, most of all it comes with knowledge and experience. Make it your mission to know who you are and what you want from life.
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Walk tall with long strides, and hold your head high with an air of confidence. Being poised and calm oozes confidence -
Feel the Goddess you are!
~ Become a good listener. Look the person in the eye and focus on what he says, importantly, give comments to make sure you understand what the meaning of the conversation is.
~ be interested in him or her and give them your full attention, therefore, never interrupt.
~ Remember my dear, people will always remember how you make them feel. They will remember your excitement when seeing them and certainly, how special you make them feel when you are around.
~ Always be calm and composed no matter what the situation might be. Be energetic and dynamic, never a Goodie-two-shoes.
~ Speak with vigour and vitality most of all, always maintaining to be alive and in motion.
~ Have an interesting life by adding diversity and originality to your personality, your relationships and your physical appearance. Never be boring and predictable. Always be well-groomed with a happy smile on your face.
~ Every man wants his special woman to be exciting, feminine, interesting, imaginative, mysterious, expressively touching and magically exotic! Above all, he wants his own Geisha girl.
It will create an aura of fascination around you.
What is a Geisha Girl?
Secrets of a Geisha girl is something many people wonder about. The mystical aura around the Geisha girl has been an intriguing fascinating phenomenon for centuries. She originates from Japan and was known as a woman pleasing men.
• Be an extraordinary woman. Emotionally and financially independent, therefore, never relies on any man for her well-being. She has her place to stay, her own money and her dignity.
• Is well-trained in a specific skill and earns her own money from producing a product, is well-mannered, soft-spoken, well-educated and could fit with ease anywhere in society.
• She is ultra-feminine in the way she dresses and her behaviour is impeccable, always cool, calm and collective with confidence, but behind closed doors, she is a tiger. One even married a Prince.
