How To Plan Your Future Life

Dear Thinette darling

What is the difference between a mission, a career and a job? Many people get confused and settle for less than they can be.

~  A Mission, is finding what excites you and gives you pleasure to enhance people’s lives. Taking responsibility to make your own money, pay salaries and wages to reach your dreams and goals.

~ A Career is a position, assisting someone else on different levels in his mission, earned a salary helping them reach their goals.

~  A Job is earning a wage, helping the person who have a career assisting the person on a mission.

Knowing what you want, will make planning easy. Previously we talked about finding a way to creating a good foundation for your future. Now it is all about your mission. What will your end result look after achieving your goals but first we will have to walk the talk my dear.

Where do I Begin?

The first step is to get rid of all negative thoughts and start TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! Your inner dialogue positive or negative is related to your relationship with yourself and dictates the outcome of your future. Therefore believing in yourself is very important for your success.


Say out loud every morning and every night:

I am going to create a fantastic life and I CAN and I WILL achieve my goals! I will be Great!

Creating My Success

Now is the time to list those dreams.  Before you make any decisions, especially life-altering decisions, you have to figure out what you want in life and how you want to spend your time.

All your dreams will be possible. A positive mindset plays a huge roll in creating your plan. You and only You can make that happen. People who know themselves and their abilities make the right decisions for their future.

You have to Believe in Yourself. Dream and imagine what your future will be like, start living your dream now in your mind and thoughts and it will become a reality.

If you want a Ferrari, go to a dealer and sit in the car, feel it, admire it. When you are looking to buy a leather couch in future, go to the shop and sit on it, smell it, feel it and see it as already in your house.  Let it be your motivator.

Dream Big

I dare you to dream big!

Lady in a bubble creating her own world of happiness

When outlining your future, have no limits, stay true to yourself. Don’t let influences from outside put you at a crossroad, my dear.  Develop your style and own vision and perception for your success. Put your hand to the wheel, and know only one way … up up up!.

All Dreams are Possible

Think of it this way, who thought a microwave could cook food. Someone got an idea, start imagining and visualising and eventually, the microwave oven became a reality.

Someone else had a dream to go to the moon, but at that moment there was no technology to make it happen. He believed in his dream. Talked to people and got a team together with the same vision and together they started planning step by step to make it came true. The rest is history.

Don’t let people with small dreams around you detour you from your mission.

How to Set Goals for My Future

Nothing is impossible my dear. Make it happen.

Just list at random what pops into your head, my dear. You will prioritize later.

You will have to decide on a formula and a strategy to make it happen. Have a short term and long term plan with vision. Set your goals, most certainly with an achievable structure.

Let’s begin with the short term goals, and set smaller goals on the way to your dream goal.How far will you have progressed in one years time and where will you be in two years, and have a five-year plan too? Here are a few examples.

  •  Do you want to become a professional and ultimately focus on a career?

Becoming an authority and get recognition in your field, you need to study at a university for your degree and then specialise.

 How To Plan My Future With 9 Tips Two people shaking hands in boardroom after a successful meeting

Afterwards, find a company to gain experience and if, when will you start your own company? Add a due date to every milepost.

Research and read as much as you can. Where on the ladder of your success do you see yourself in five years? For instance,

management in a company or having your own practice or business?

• Decided to become a housewife to the most wonderful man and be the best mum in the world. How many children do you want to have and when? Agree on a way how to raise the kids. Will you be a stay-at-home mom?

Know how old you will be when they will leave the nest?   Finding information can be very challenging. The most important issue is to have a loving and harmonious relationship. How will you go about it?

• Do you want to become an entrepreneur running your own business? Brick and mortar office or online business with a home office. What training and where? Research your competition to know who you are up against.

Remember competition is always good, the more the better, that means people need that product. The secret of success is, be the best option. In addition what will your focus be to get your business out the blocks?

Finding a legal trustworthy option online with good training could be a hard task. Making marketing a priority, set weekly and monthly goals, stick to it and get financially sound? I do have an option for you!

Get Going

Become a life long member of the ‘The 5 Second Rule’, a worldwide life-changing motivational movement by Mel Robbins for free and get things done.

Save the link, scroll down and start at Day 1 for 35 days. This is a life-changing challenge!

9 Important Steps and Tips

• Find a quiet spot, most importantly where you

will not be distributed


• Stop thinking about the past and how life has been, that is water under the bridge. Take the positive and move on.

• Review what was important, in fact, decide in advance what will motivate you.

• Think about your reality and what you need, most noteworthy, there will be a hidden driven force, hence stimulating you.  Never lose your enthusiasm.

• Trust your instinct and write the options down, most of all, make a list if there are more than one.

• Find your strengths and build your planning on it. Know your weaknesses too. Learn something new every day and furthermore learn new skills. Never feel satisfied with the knowledge you have.

• Winners do not make excuses, that is not an option.

• Become a warrior and take nothing lying down, most importantly, you are unstoppable and the victor. Love yourself and be your own best teammate.

  • Nothing is impossible, in contrast, only personal image and laziness get in the way.

Plan of Action

Take a pen and paper, yes a pen and paper my dear, write a review of all the happenings, positive and negative, during the year past. Goals accomplished and those still pending. Keep this in mind with your next planning

When done, start outlining the goals and tasks for the coming year. Do your planning in a journal, clarify your actions for the next year to make your dreams come true. Pen and paper make it more real and personal, my dear.

How To Plan My Future With 9 Tips Girl sitting in a quiet place and writing her goals

Know what you want to achieve during the next year. Be realistic, do not put too much pressure on business or personal achievements.

Set some guidelines for the year, for instance, divide it into twelve steps one for each month.

Take the task of each month and divide into four weeks.

Divide the weeks into the workdays of every week.

Work out a detailed example schedule to stay on track, in addition, it will make all very clear.

Keeping Records

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  • Have a journal or file for each month.

  • Keep all receipts and guarantees and file it. Very important!

  • Write down and keep information on a daily basis as it happens, do it at the end of each day.

  • Make copies of all slips immediately, because the ink disappears. Dated it at the top and save it in a huge envelope allocated for each month. Name and date the envelope.

  • If you want to be meticulous have another journal on your desk and keep cross-references to the specific file, it makes it easier to track an issue.

I cannot stress the fact enough, how important it is to keep proper records, my dear. It will save you a lot of money and heartache over time.

Safeguarding yourself, it is important to keep daily records of every move you make. Date and what action was taken.

How to go about it

Without the necessary preparation, your dream will never come true in time. It will be easier if you create a template to do your planning on, every month, week and day have their own page in a file. All you need to do is to date and fill in the framework and your preparation or report is done.

When you plan your ambitions go for the ultimate dream. The importance of goal setting is to aim high. Decisions have to be made above your ability, certainly within range and believe you can reach them.

Write your yearly intentions and plans down, importantly keep it at your bedside table. Read it every night and every morning out loud to yourself.

This is what you want and you going to get it no matter what, most importantly,  Believe, it is going to happen. Live as if it already has, even if you don’t know how just know it is going to happen,


What I Speak and Think is what I create.

Start with small steps and climb every mountain, with determination, to reach the great epitome of your vision. Don’t start running on the water, and after a while, sinking halfway with exhaustion.


Write it on your bathroom mirror, more importantly, on sticky notes all over your room.

Read it out loud every time you walk past as a reminder of your final goal, most importantly, it keeps you motivated and focused.

How Do I Handle Failures

There will be failures, my dear, failure is one of the tools for success, furthermore, it makes you mentally stronger. It will have an influence on how successful you will become in the future.

The way you handle failure will dictate the height of your success. Your persistence and determination hold the key.

Let it become a motivating factor.  It shapes you and teaches you. Gaining the experience on what to do next time, best of all, what to avoid. In turn, it will help you make better choices.

Never see failure as the End, as a matter of fact, it is only the beginning of great things to come.

Rowena Tsai says “If you don’t rise to the level of your goals, you fail at the level of your systems.”

Get up, dust yourself, apply the knowledge gained as an advantage. Create new systems and make this stumbling block a stepping stone to your success.

How To Plan My Future With 9 Tips blocks in a row, see and use these stumbling blocks as stepping stones

All good in life is worth waiting for. It comes with effort and over time. Patience and being consistent with enthusiasm is all that counts.

The bad can easily destroy and it happens in seconds.

My Bright Future

You have to say to yourself “There are no limits to a bright future, all can be overcome, therefore, I am going to dream big and go big!”.

My dear Thinette the only thing holding you back, is you, your thoughts and your behaviour.

All is possible, it is just determination and persistence that makes the difference.

How long are you going to sit idle, living in a dream world, my dear, and let the good life pass you by? Don’t look at all your successful friends, instead, let them admire your success.

My greatest wish for you, dear Thinette is to be happy successful and financially independent.

Stop procrastinating if you are! Remember the 5-second rule!

Get up and create the life you desire.

All my love

Gran Stella.

Inspire Motivate And Empower The Next Generation

45 Comments on “How To Plan Your Future Life”

  1. I knew that is it! Wonderful content, awe person. Congratulations on clever and nice content. How much love and care! Other things don’t matter, form, widgets, bla bla. You have a love blog and I envy you. Honestly.

    1. Hi Goran, thank you so much for your kind words, it is heartwarming!

      I can not wait to write the next post, hope the day will come, so I can only focus on writing and not all this high tech stuff!
      Is it possible to see the glass as half full and not half empty?
      I appreciate your comment, it is inspiring and motivating.
      Kind Regards

  2. You are such an inspiration! Your granddaughter can be proud that she has such an amazing mentor in you! Keep up them good vibes and sooner than later not only your granddaughter but you too will have great success!

    Lots of love


    1. Hi Kofi

      Thank you for the kind words it is such a motivation!
      Young people are hard to get to when one sees all the mistakes … so I hope this will reach them not just her one or other time.
      It will be there, it is just for the reading.

      Thank you for your comment I appreciate it.

  3. Hi Stella. I hope your granddaughter appreciates the love that you have for her. It is evident from your letters that she is very dear to you.
    I can remember when I was younger and I thought I knew it all. All those years ago I did not listen to someone who offered me good advice regarding investing in real estate. I REALLY wished I had listened! However, we cannot hear until we are ready to learn something new. She will come around some day and realize what a treasure trove of life-affirming information you have to share. I hope, as no doubt you do, that the day she is ready s sooner rather than later.
    Best wishes to you and Thinette.

    1. Hi Andrew

      Thank you! Yes she is very dear to me and we have a very open and close relationship. Can be stubborn and is her own person but love her.
      If we sit down and think back there are so many things that we will want to change if we had known then.
      Well it was not meant to be but we have the experience now.
      Very wise words, no one will listen until they are ready!
      I value your comments thank you.

  4. Hi Stella,

    This is another great letter to your granddaughter.

    It is really right that there is no such thing as impossible dream. All we need to do is just prepare for it by setting our daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goal. We have to make sure that we always revisit our goals to check if we are right on track or if what we are doing is not in line with our goals and dreams.

    Thank you for writing this letter; it serves to me as a reminder for me to keep going and to be on track. This article reminded me of what I need to do for me to reach my goals.


    1. Hi Joyce

      Thank you for your comment and glad you could benefit from it! It makes writing these letters worthwhile.

      It is very motivating to put your goals in writing and read often to keep on track.

      Good luck and hope you will reach your goals sooner than you think.

  5. What a great letter to a granddaughter. Wisdom that we all need to hear whether we are 8 or 80.

    I reflect back to a letter written to my by my grandfather the day I was born in 1939. Even today lets me know that I was and still am special, just like Thinette is to you now.

    It is wonderful that you have taken the time to put this in writting in a series of letters that she will be able to cherish forever and maybe even share with her children and grandchildren. She will reflect back on just how much you care about her achieving her goals along with the times of coming up short.

    The love expressed is so impressive and real that a reader cannot help but feel it and live in the moment with you. You write with true feeling.

    1. It is wonderful to cherish something so valuable as the letter you have of your granddad. He expressed his gratitude and love for you by making it such a memorable letter written on your birth day.
      Hope these letters will help one day when she needs them.
      Thank you Barry your comment counts.

  6. This is a great article Stella and I commend you on sharing your wisdom and helping others.

    I have a couple of points to add. I think you can learn a lot by reflecting on your past instead of dwelling on your past. Thinking about how you could have made a better decision or handled a situation differently can be very powerful if you use it to make better decisions today and in the future.

    I believe there is no such thing as a failure as long as you learn something from your mistake. Failing forward is how we all can learn and become more capable.

    1. Hi Braden
      Thank you for your comment and points made. I appreciate it.
      As I have said I see failure as a tool to success, turn this stumbling block into a stepping stone on your road to success.
      Sometimes the young do not have the experience yet to do an in depth study of their past …. I believe that comes a bit later when they have experienced more to compare, but it is always good to relfect back when you are older to make better choices for sure.
      I value your comment.

  7. Thinette is lucky to have such a devoted grandma! Thank you for sharing your tips with the rest of us, too!

  8. Great article! Even at my age your wise advise is sound. Back in the day (‘40s & ‘50s) who would have thought we’d be watching things happening on the other side of the world in our living room or even on the bus traveling to work. Not to mention all the other advances that have occurred.

    You advice to your granddaughter not only applies to her. It is meaningful to all ages, even 80. You have such a wonderful way with words, can visiaulize her reading this five years down the road.

    Thanks for sharing your precious letters.

    1. Thank you Barry for being a real motivator!
      The world has changed so much in a way we never though it would, really making it good in some aspects.
      Hahaha, yes I hope she will, at the moment she is still running wild, I am hoping one sunny day the penny will drop.
      Will have to do the book to keep it safe or her.
      Thanks for an inspiring comment.

  9. Stella,
    This is a great letter to let my son read. He is at the time in his life that he will have to start making decisions that will lead him to his future. He does not want to listen to me, I am a parent you know. Maybe reading this from a person he does not know will spark something in him.
    He does dabble a little online, he thinks this is an easy way to make a buck without much work. I think it is just like a full time job if you want to make a full time living.
    I think making a plan is always the first step to success in anything. Having a journal for your thoughts and plans is a great way to start.

    1. Thank you John!
      Yes what a parent say means nothing … they know it all.. hahaha
      These letters is equally good for men and women. I only have one grandchild therefore the letters to her, for the same reason.
      Hopefully she will come to her sences read and take note.
      This is all we can do, the rest is up to them.

  10. What a great article! When I was young, I never knew what it would be like when I was of age to take on responsibilities. I didn’t want to think about it but on the other hand… I wish I did. This is a great post with great information for people of all ages. Even if you have not started yet… you can start now!

    1. Joseph, very few people think about retirement at that age … lol
      Now we know it was of the essence to do some prep work in advance.
      Life works in more or less 30 to 40 year cycles. If you catch the cycle at bad timing like now, you will have good times in 30 to 40 years.
      Then the next 30 odd years it will be bad times again.
      At my age we caught the good cycle in our prime of 35 to 45 years of age.
      Now 30 years later we have hard times again in our old age …
      You can work your cycle out according your age… hahaha
      Good luck with your planning!

  11. Only personal image and laziness get in the way, another great post Stella. I love reading these posts, they are so encouraging.

    1. To have an image about yourself and try to impress others can be such a hindrance in your development.
      Thank you for your motivating comnent!

  12. Hi Stella. More inspiring words for your lucky granddaughter!
    I like that you say “My greatest wish for you is to be happy successful and financially independent.” What parent wouldn’t wish that for their cherished descendants? However, unfortunately, the truth is that so many parents are not happy, successful, or financially independent for themselves, so do not know how to instill these traits into their children.
    I believe that if your granddaughter takes to heart the wisdom she is receiving in your letters that she will achieve a fulfilling, happy, and prosperous life filled with adventure and love.

    1. This is my wish for each and every one reading these letters.
      Even the parents who feel lost and need a change of attitude.
      I hope every one realises the imoprtance to start early …
      The earlier you start plannonmg the earlier you can retire.
      Thank you for a great comment Andrew!

  13. Hi Stella,

    Great post! Great letter! You are inspiring your granddaughter in ways that are bound to help her move forward in life. And what a great legacy to leave her. Beautifully written.

    This letter will inspire anyone. I love when you say ‘I dare you to dream big!’ Kids love a dare.

    Keep up this special mission you have. Can’t wait for the next one 🙂


    1. I hope it will inspire more young ones to have better futures.

      This niche has chosen me, I just had to write this when I saw all the ignorance around me.

      This is my contribution to the future.

      Thank you for very humbling kind words.

  14. Gabrielle says:

    This is so sweet and wise! When you said “Nothing is impossible my dear, only personal image and laziness get in the way,” it reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from Lewis Carroll:

    Alice laughed: “There’s no use trying,” she said; “one can’t believe impossible things.” “I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was younger, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

    1. Only believing in it makes it happen!
      It is all the power of the mind in mind over matter.
      Thank you Goobie for pointing it out and giving us your favourite quote.

  15. Hi Stella
    This is really wonderful to read and I am sure you will reach a large audience with these wise words
    Great to see the love and wisdom in your words

    1. Thank you for your motivational comment Vickie.
      As I gave said before this niche has chosen me and it just comes pouring out.
      I will follow the advice you have given me and I know it will make a huge difference.
      Stella Bush Lady

  16. I hope this is not the conclusion of letters to Stella’s granddaughter!!! What a wonderful insightful gathering of wisdom and love.

    Such a great way with words to create a desire for her granddaughter to look inside herself, but for everyone who has the opportunity to read these letters, to grow both in knowledge self and the world of today.

    1. There are many more to come Barry, if I can just get the technical side behind me hahaha.
      Thank you very much for your kind words.
      Looking forward to read one of your books.

  17. Hello Stella,
    Following your article,thank you for your wisdom .Love reading this.
    Happy Holiday 🙂

    1. Thank you Bella, appreciate your comment. There will soon be new letters coming.
      Happy reading.

  18. Hi Stella,

    Another great letter to your granddaughter.

    I love reading your letters for i, myself, is getting wisdom and lessons from it.
    Your fourth letter, helped me remind myself to make my goals, to never mind those people who are pulling us down, to start painting our future by first making our goal and of course working on it.

    This is such a motivating letter.

    Thank you for this.


    1. Thank you Joyce for your motivating comment I appreciate it. Keeping of reconds is equal important, though it is hard work and seems like a schlep it helps you stay focused and on track.
      All the best in reaching those goals!
      Bush Lady

  19. All of your words are very inspiring. You come across as a real friend that cares. I especially like the wisdom you gave by saying: ” Don’t let people around you with small dreams detour you from your mission.” People can be your wall or bridge.

    1. I had the privilege to grew up with the most wonderful parents a child can ever have. Caring, loving, compassionate, wise, just, trustworthy and honest. This is my tribute to them for what they have taught me. I want their legacy to never die.
      Thank you for a great comment Ed.
      Bush Lady.

  20. Hi, wish you have a great day
    This article is so awesome, it’s really inspiring and I don’t know what to say, I’m gonna bookmark this page. Thank you so much

    God Bless.

    1. Thank you for a very inspiring comment I appreciate it Lan. If you do the workshop you will follow your growth every step.
      Bush Lady

  21. Wow! This is amazing, Thanks for all the wisdom and advice.
    I wish my granny was more like you.
    Thanks for sharing this with us.

    1. Thank you Florin for your kind words!
      Everybody is trying his best in his own way … and this comes so easy for me. Hopefully it will serve a purpose.
      Good luck.

  22. Vanna Denham says:

    Hi Stella,

    What a wonderful meaningful way to communicate with your granddaughter. I wish I’d had a grandmother like you.

    I smiled when I read, ” yes if you can think it you can do it”. One of my favorite quotes is, “If you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right”.

    I agree that deciding what you want to do and write down a plan is a great way to get started

    Happy holidays!

    1. Thank you Vanna appreciate your comment and kind words. My heart is big you are welcome … lol.
      What a wonderful saying…. very true!
      Send me a link to your post too, would like to read about your passion.

  23. I cant believe this . This is full of wisdom and the approach is very intimate. Thanks grandma i will definitely want to see your next letter on the debt trap. I cant wait. Thanks

    1. Thank you Amos I appreciate your comment! It comes so easy to write because I had very wise parents.
      Do you have a post I can read?
      Have a wonderful day!

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