The Debt Trap

My dear Thinette

know how to get your guy . Minette

The Debt Trap. My dear, our granddad used to say, Debt is a swear word. Stay away from it as far as you can, as it is contagious. Living within your limits is the only way and also there is no such thing as plastic money, meaning credit cards.

I am giving you tips on what I have learned from him, and best of all, guidance to solve the debt dilemma. It might sound old fashion to your but is the best way to start. Not popular words.

Once you have concerned it and set a pattern you can get into start saving money to invest for passive income and financial freedom. 

The best way to become debt-free from a personal point of view is to buy cash, my dear. A hard one when you see all the temptations on offer. Staying out of debt keeps you in control, to later buy what you want, and it has so many advantages.

How To Solve The Debt Trap

You might not have a money-spending problem my dear … it could be an income problem! If the money you earn is not enough to cover your monthly responsibilities, you have a problem. Let alone having spending money.

Let’s try and get to the bottom of it, and solve this debt trap problem. Once you started going into debt it fast becomes a downward spiral.

This happens almost every day. Having gained freedom after school brings newfound excitement. You are free to do whatever you want. After your first money is earned you rush through the shops. Filling the trolley with all you want, and giving in to many temptations. 

The urge to buy what you see and want can cause much grief and stress. The possibility of falling into the debt trap is imminent.

How to avoid debt is a skill everybody can learn. To be able to live debt-free, will need good planning and discipline. Never spend more than you earn

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The Debt Trap

How Can I Help You

In this letter, I am going to give you tips and hints, guiding you to solve the problem and Live a Debt Free Life.

It will not be the end of the world to have debt, as long as you are sensible enough, take responsibility and try to get out of it, my dear.  Pick up the pieces, do your planning and walk away wiser from this experience. Never repeat it.

No no … money is not the monster my dear. The way you manage money or rather the lack of management makes it the monster.

Landing in debt can ruin your life.  The worst thing that can happen is falling into the claws of the law.


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You are so dear to me, I never want this to happen to you. This letter is to help you prevent seeing the inside of these offices.

Rules to Getting Debt Free


  • Try and buy less and less every month, it is possible, my dear. There are many things you buy that are not necessary. Ask yourself, do I need this item or do I want it? Set a budget aside to grant yourself the luxury of one extra item a month.

  • When confronted with a desire to buy, think twice. Make sure which will benefit the most. The money stays in your pocket, meaning sooner financial freedom, or breaking your budget keeping you poor. 

  • Make it a rule, listen to the little voice sitting on your shoulder, buying less, and see how your savings accumulate my darling. 

  • Never Buy With Money You Do Not have in Your Account

  • Try never to use a credit card to buy goods and therefore go into debt. If you are using the bank’s money, they will charge you interest and you will have to pay back almost double the amount.

Not just the young people are guilty of it, but adults, out of control and who want to compete with the Joneses next door also fall into this trap. Not planning or being in the social spiral can drain your funds too.


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  • Buying Takeaways and Alcohol are the culprits. Most people are guilty of it. Don’t deprive yourself, but just do everything in moderation and limit yourself.

  • Have a fixed budget and plan for both those items per month and stick to it.

  • Without proper planning and discipline for your money, you will live from paycheck to paycheck for the rest of your life and never fulfil your dreams.

  • Your big dreams are possible to reach, with good planning, discipline and dedication. Do it from the start.

  • Pay Yourself First, you will reach your goals much sooner than the rest.

  • Patience and persistence are the keys to achieving.

It is important to realise a newly hatched birdie can’t fly like an eagle. You have to start at the bottom like everybody else and not start off where your parents are now.

You have to start at the bottom step when you left the nest. Now your happiness and success are your responsibility, not your parent’s.

  • Build up your little kingdom step by step to the big Empire you want, and appreciate every step.

There will be times when all is not what you would want it to be, just keep going and it will smooth out.


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The Debt Trap

Value of Money

Lesson learned

Mine came when I was 7 years old. On our way for our annual holiday at the coast, I left my pretty little bag with all my holiday money at the table in a restaurant when we left.

Needless to say, we never found it. My dad was a very strict father and did not give me more money, I had to learn a lesson. Every treat was paid for but I had no extra money to buy myself something special as I used to do. This is when you get to know the meaning of tough love and the value of money.


What does money mean to you?

Is the value comfort, luxury, or necessity or will it be the vehicle for your dreams? Have a plan of action for the money you will earn for the rest of your working life. Make it useful with the purpose to fulfil the goals you have.


• Never waste money. To be honest, we all are guilty of throwing away food, or still usable stuff and clothes from a sale. Tell me will you tare up paper money and throw it in the dustbin? Well, this is what wasting money means.


• Have respect for money and it will come to you in abundance. No, not by magic my dear, but by realising the importance of every cent and saving it for future investment.


Everybody has, NEEDS and WANTS.

NEEDS are to pay for necessities you cannot function without

WANTS are goods you don’t need but what your heart desires

Never buy on the spur of the moment and never buy what you can’t afford. Make a choice and find goods that will fit your purse and budget. Be patient … your time will come, but you are not there yet.


• The next step is to stay out of Debt. Some people brag about strings of credit cards hanging from their purses. They don’t have enough money, live beyond their limits and then use the bank’s money to pay for their goods at a huge interest rate.  Don’t be fooled my dear those are the shackles of enslavement if you used it to pay for living costs.

Save your money and rather have the discipline to buy cash. Hard words but true if you have a shopping addiction, my dear.


• If you have a credit card with a limit, never use it to go into debt. Give your employer your credit account number to deposit your monthly income into. Use it as a debit card to purchase, this way you will always be aware of your limit and will save on interest too.


• Pay all your monthly responsibilities with the card, yourself first, your house rent, water and electricity, medical aid, insurance, car payment etc.

In the beginning, until you have formed new habits, decide how much money you will need yourself for personal use and draw your money cash.


• Divide it into four equal amounts and put it in four envelopes marked week 1, week 2, week 3 and week 4. Every week just use what is in the envelope. Don’t feel tempted to ‘steal’ from the next week or go into debt for a Want.


• The media plays a major role to get you into Debt and the Banks make it so easy to get an overdraft, keeping you a prisoner of your debt. Don’t fall into their money-making ploy love.


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They add almost and sometimes more than 20% interest to the amount you pay. You almost pay double the amount for the same item, leaving you with an empty purse.


Never spend money you do not have, rather have patience and save for your goal.


It becomes a bottomless hole your money disappears into, leaving you with nothing.



Following these guidelines for financial freedom, my dear will keep you out of the debt trap, keeping you in control. It is so much easier to prevent it. 


Improving your skills to earn a better salary can be a solution or finding another option is to have a second income. In the long run, a person with a culture of debt will land in big trouble. Set a pattern of spending that suits you and act diligently on it, my dear.


Love you and wish you all the best for the success you want to achieve.

Gran Estelle

know how to get your guy  Picture of Estelle

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15 Comments on “The Debt Trap”

  1. A very important topic Stella! Being able to control your and your families finances is one of the corner stones of being a responsible adult. You have to keep track of your income and

    My three tips for care free finances would be:
    1. Put something aside. Either on a saving account, or more preferably on shares and holdings because the interest will be much higher these days. One good way to so save money is to buy your own apartment or house. The mortgage payments will be like putting money in the bank and in many places the payments are about the same you would pay for rent, which is only an expense instead of an investment.
    2. Use automated banking for recurrent payment. Make sure you check your transactions once a month but automation really takes a lot of stress out of the equation. There are great phone apps for this as well.
    3. Never buy anything big without thinking about at least three times if you really need it.

    Thanks for the good read Stella!

    1. Hi Jukka
      Managing one’s money can be tricky if you do not have the discipline.
      You make three valid points and it is very important.
      I should say saving is right on top as you mentioned … take the money off first thing every month and you will never know it was even there. If you see it growing month by month it will inspire you to save more. I don’t understand when people say they don’t have the money to save.
      It is still your money but not as handy. It has just been moved to another acount.
      Taking your own photos is a trick that works. When looking at buying a new car or couch. Take photos from different angles of the models you are looking at inside and outside, download at home and compare them with specs and all.
      At home you can make your own decision without interference from a salesman.

      I value your input.

  2. Great nuggets of advice. The most successful people financially have planned to be where they are at. They didn’t win the lottery and fate did not deal them security LOL. Planning yes!!

    Pay yourself first is a rule that if everyone followed the world would be better off. As we get older there would be something there. The US social security system takes that role on by deducting your Social security from your paycheck before you can even see it. It is enough to live on if you don’t have any DEBT when you retire LOL Most people in their mid sixties are still carrying massive debt. SAD

    I am in my mid sixties and have been at both ends of the financial stratum and believe it or not I have been happiest in the middle. More income seems to drive you to want more things which creates a merry go round lol

    So my advice to Thinnette is “Listen to Granny!”

    onward n upward

    1. Hi-hi Captain
      Money falling into one’s lap like lotto money or inheritance is easy money and as they say easy come easy go it seldom stays.
      Everything you sweat for, you appreciate more and take better care of.
      In our country you cannot count on government grants too much. It only adds up to about $120 so planning is the only way and from early on.
      So it is true that extremes are not the best thing? Having to little makes for a stressful live and too much makes you arrogant, greedy and blasé, just enough to live comfortably is the ideal …
      Thank you for your kind words it is motivating!
      I value your comment!

  3. My granny passed 3 years ago. She was MY source of love, encouragement, acceptance, advice, wisdom and endless hugs. I miss her too much, Stella. Her daughter who happens to be my mother is the source of the exact opposite to me.
    I’m a bit overwhelmed by emotion right now. I feel I found a NEW source that can substitute the one I lost. Thank you so much!!!

    1. Hi Effie
      So very sorry to hear about your loss. Yes we want them to live forever.
      Thank you for the compliment and you are welome, I only have one grandchild and I myself was an only child. I have a big heart and place for more.
      Wishing you all the best!

  4. Fantastic post Stella! I live a debt free life and spend less than I earn. Once I worked out this simple thing and focused on spending less rather than focusing on how I can earn more to buy more “stuff”. I stopped wanting to buy the things I didn’t need. Iv managed to drop down to working 3 days a week and now spend more time with my family and doing the things i love. It’s such a shame that a lot distractions and bad guidance leed people down the wrong path. So many young people leave education in dept! And continue to live their life that way.

    Fantastic advise, something I will be sharing with my children as they grow.

    Many thanks

    1. Hi Billy
      Isn’t it amazing with how much less you can live. I should put that in the letter too if I may?
      I have a huge house 600 sq m but are renting it out now. I moved into a little flat about 100 sq m. everything is in storage and you can’t believe how little one needs. Why have a dozen of all if you only use four of all.
      You are a wise man and your family can be very proud of you!
      Thank you for kind words I appreciate it very much.
      All the best to you.

  5. This is the best advice a young person could ever get. Actually it’s the best advice that someone of any age could use. You reminded me that I need to pursue my dreams too with the comment on not being comfortable for too long and finding things that excite me. I’ve been contemplating a career change lately and your post is just what I needed to hear. Thanks Stella! 🙂

  6. Great advice Stella,

    I could certainly use the tips you state in this post. I am currently living paycheck to paycheck and have a number of debts.

    It is actually pretty easy to be debt free, I just need to not spend as much each month on socializing and buying silly things that I don’t really need. Also, buying less alcohol a month and cheaper food.

    I love your site and posts.

    Keep up the great work.


  7. Stella, your letter to your love one is an important message. The youngin’s can learn a lot from simply
    reading your letter. This letter is so nice, I like it. So much information here Stella, love it.

    I will read your other letters. You have so much to offer Stella.

    You have improved a lot here, I am soooo proud of you! I remember you as a person who didn’t know
    the difference between a computer and a typewriter. My Stella you have come a long way my dear friend.

    Again, you have so much to offer the world Stella, keep doing what you are doing, I am so excited
    for you! The skies the limit my friend!

    1. Your comment is very inspiring Frank thank you so much.Your help and support made it possible.
      There are so many misunderstanding and misconceptions. Society also plays a huge roll in the failure of many relationships.
      I wish most woman will wake up and smell the coffee. They miss out on the best part of life, and put their focus where it is not needed.
      You have motivated we to carry on and build my little castle.
      Will visit your site too in the morning.
      I appreciate your visit.

  8. What wonderful tips! I like the idea of putting money into a savings account that I can’t just transfer money out of . I think even if I start small I will be doing better than I do now, as I don’t save anything. Being a single mom makes it kind of hard, but you have given me some ideas!

  9. Hi Stella,

    Such great advice! Love it. This should be taught in every school in the world. Kids these days are not taught how to earn, how to save or how to spend money. And we wonder why there are so many broke people in the world!

    Your advice has been taught down the years. I remeber reading the Richest Man in Babylon. Such a great book on saving 10%.

    Responsibility is huge too. Thanks for telling it how it is.



    1. Growing up with no space for grey areas was all I knew, it was either right or wrong no maybes anywhere. It is hard for the young people of today to relate to it and even harder to guide them … but I will try my best!

      As you say Responsibility is very important and so are Respect and Integrity. All are necessary for a successful and truly happy life.

      Thank you for a very motivating comment, I do appreciate it.

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