The Secret Language of Love
How will I know Gran?
In a relationship, it is wise to be aware of the other person’s behaviour. It is the secret language of love. Behaviour and habits will tell you how they feel about you and a person’s character. Therefore, it is important to stay true to yourself for a successful relationship.
Stay Who You are, and never change. It is one of the secrets of a happy relationship. Have this attitude, my dear, never change for anybody if you are not prepared to, and never try to change any other person to your needs and wants.
The Secret Language of Love
Those pillars of a relationship that gives it a strong foundation are something every couple should know and have. A good and happy relationship takes a lot of dedication and hard work to be perfect.
Love and a committed relationship are not a destination, my dear but only the beginning of a lifelong journey together.
The CORNERSTONES to a healthy, committed, loving, long-lasting, intimate relationship are
~ RESPECT Accept the person for he or she is. Seek to understand the person. Be kind to one another. Accept there will be differences and settle them with compassion. Apologise when at fault.
~ APPRECIATION Value your partner. See all the small things they do and appreciate them with a kiss and a hug. Do something special for your partner every day. Be grateful for what they do, by saying thank you every time.
~ TRUST Trust is one of the major contributors to a relationship. Without it, there is no relationship. Be open with no secrets. Communicate effectively. Honour your commitments. Be vulnerable.
~ HONESTY Make your actions match your words. Know yourself and your intentions. Be sincere in all you do. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
ADORATION and DESIRE are the other two pillars supporting the intimacy behind closed doors, making it perfect. Tell him and show him how much you adore and desire him. Show him he is the only one for you. Keep your love life exciting, fun and fresh.
Commitment In A Nutshell
● A Woman loves Commitment and Romance. She wants to feel SECURE, LOVED, HAPPY and SPECIAL in a relationship. Woman wants OBSESSION, DEVOTION and INTIMACY.
● To a Man, love means FUN TIME, SEX and EXCITEMENT with the woman of his choice, but he wants to feel SAFE, HAPPY, FREE and SECURE around you. A man wants RESPECT, APPRECIATION and ADMIRATION.
The Secret Language of Love
How Would I Know
Move on and search till you find the one who ticks all the boxes. He is out there, you will find him. Do not sit back and wait for him, my dear.
Make a list of all the characteristics important to you, what behaviour is important to you in a man and how you want him to be.
What will your Lover, Best Friend and Hero BE like and not LOOK like? Looks don’t last but character and personality do, my dear.
Knowing what your must-haves are and what are the dealbreakers when getting to know him better will make it easier?
Must-haves can be:
Be kind with tenderness towards people and animals.
Responsibility towards his work, parents and friends.
Be compassionate and helpful.
Love you dearly
Sporty and active person.
Happy positive personality, laughing and being happy.
Respectful when talking about his parents and friends.
Dedicated to his occupation and have a vision for his future, and more.
Dealbreakers can be:
He has a negative outlook on life and complains about everything.
Drinking too much alcohol.
Abusive signs, being cruel to animals.
Tend to lie and have double standards
An ego problem, have to be right all the time.
Controlling nature of a narcissist.
Go out and make friends. Try to meet as many men as possible, watch, listen and observe. When you meet someone special, how does he make you feel? Does he tick the boxes you have set?
How does he make you feel?
Making you feel happy and secure.
Accept you as you are
Want to be around him all the time
Feel so lucky to have him in your life
Think of him all the time from opening your eyes in the morning until you close them at night.
Mmmmm then he might be the one, my dear!
To have respect for one another is so important, my dear. It is never a good sign if you feel the need to change a person’s behaviour.
When you manipulate and try to change a partner, he or she is willing to change just to please you, but it is never permanent. After a while, everybody will go back to the old habits they are familiar with, and it is a clear sign you are not meant to be together.
If the relationship makes you feel unhappy, ask yourself what the reason is. Go back to your list of behaviour and see which boxes get a mark, positive and negative
Be critical and analyze every aspect of your time together or when you sent text messages. Be realistic and accept responsibility for your actions that contributed to the situation.
Decide if it is worth it, or accept the breakup without feeling guilty or pity towards the other person. This relationship will not be a happy one, especially not for you. Above all, you are doing both of you a favour.
Feel sorry for yourself for a little while and then move on and find your match, there are millions to choose from, my dear.
The Secret Language Of Love
Be elusive and do not become too serious too soon. Make an informed decision that will last for the rest of your life. To meet Mr Right, make sure to do it with an open mind but not open legs, my love. Getting intimate too soon might attract the wrong guy for the wrong reasons.