To Love a Woman

My dear Grandson

Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Picture of my Grandson.

The secret of how to love a woman is to know her love language. She is all about romance, obsession and desire. These are the things that make her happy.

Do you want a willing partner who shares your passion for fun and sex in a committed relationship? The short version is, treat her like your queen and she will be your devoted lover for as long as you want. To love a woman is like a roller coaster ride, can be an adventure every day.

In this letter, you will read, never been told before info and find ways to know her better. If you want to know the full recipe, read more …

To Love a Woman

Love and Romance

Loving and romancing a woman can be challenging, but there are ways to make this roller coaster ride an adventure and exciting.

Sure you know loving a Woman has many ups and downs, I don’t have to tell you. The way a woman thinks and why she thinks the way she thinks is a mystery to many people.

Understanding the mystique of a woman’s mind is no easy task they say, but today you will find what you need to know to understand her.

 Romancing Women Roller Coaster Ride. An amusement park roller coaster ride.

Loving a Woman

Love and romance are static, only you can blow life into it, soon it will be a blazing glowing furnace of satisfying feelings for you and her.

How to love a woman becomes logical the moment you understand the way most women’s minds are designed. Navigating to make her happy becomes easy when your know-how. Not all are the same but treating her with respect will get you a long long way.

Important Behaviour

•  A woman wants to feel cherished, secure and special.

•  Give her the acknowledgement for who she is and what she does, as well as her achievements. She is doing it all for your relationship.

•   Never alienate your woman by speaking negatively of her and her behaviour. Keep on the same side and be a team.

Many a time women and their behaviour become a joke amongst men. Men seldom take the time to learn to understand the mind of a woman.

It is only a topic by a man who does not know his woman or have the necessary respect for his woman. Making him the laughing stock, women generally just turn a blind eye.

•  Women do love differently than men, accept it and play the game …  she also has to accept a man, love differently.

•  Surprise her and see the joy in her smile, even an unexpected kiss or hug. There are so many ways and it will cost you nothing, she is very easy to please. You do get the Drama Queens but they are the exception.

 Romancing Women Roller Coaster Ride. Man surprising a woman with a kiss in her neck.

  • Run her a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine.

  • Make her favourite cup of tea, and rose petals from the garden on the bed.

  • Call her and show her the beautiful sunset with your arms around her.

  • Give her a body massage with her favourite essential oil. Find out and learn to know what your partner likes.

•  Shower her with love and affection. Tell her every day how much you love her, how beautiful she is and how special she is.

Show her how much she means to you, similarly, she is the keeper of your happiness, always remember that.

Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Happy-Birthday-Rainbow-with a heart of well wishes written in the bow of the rainbow

•  Remembering special dates, especially her birthday, makes her very happy and she feels cared for. By remembering, you show her she is important and has a special space in your hectic life.

Find a way to remember it! Take the time and set reminders, a week before, a day before and at the day, to be prepared to get a gift and flowers or make a booking at a restaurant. [Do it yourself, not your PA.]  You will reap the benefits. She will be ecstatic.

Special Tip

Ask your partner or wife to list all important dates on the fridge where everybody can see it, and make it a habit to check every time you use the fridge.

It is all About Priorities

• Be present and be a part of the activities at home, it makes the team you are so much stronger and this is the time to flirt and seduce. That is what happiness at home is about.

In other words, my son, acknowledges her, loves her and cherishes her at home and in public. Make her the number one in your life. Never makes her feel inferior, unimportant or left out in your presence ever.

You both have to attend to each other’s needs, share life and be a winning team. It is no disgrace or an embarrassment to love and make your woman the number one person in your life, especially in public. Real men will envy the relationship you have.

Behaviour of men

I would like to give you an insight into old fashion men’s behaviour. It boils down to general good manners which will make you an outstanding distinguished man in a world where being sloppy is the trend.

You will gain immediate respect for being so different from the, don’t care ways, of today. Try it, don’t waste time. It will change your world.

To Love a Woman 

Old World Gentleman Behaviour

Did you know there was a time

•  A man would open the door for a lady

•   Pull out her chair for her, and most importantly, open the car door for her

 Romancing Women Roller Coaster Ride. Gentleman walking close to the curb, protecting his lady from traffic

•   Let her enter a door before you, any woman not just yours

•  When you walk down the street, the lady will walk on the inside, away from the traffic

•  Never start eating until she has started

•   Wait until everybody has finished eating and all have their dessert before you eat.

 Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Smart Table-setting at dinner table in restaurant.

•  The table at a hotel will have different sets of cutlery for every course you eat and you will have to know how to use them.

That is still the case when you dine outsmart. Don’t just grab any piece of cutlery and start eating.

•   Standing up when a woman enters a room or comes to the table you sit at a restaurant, show respect.

 Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Cleaning shoes, Shoe polish, brushes and cloth.

  •    Your leather shoes will always shine and other soft shoes are clean and fresh. Hands and nails will receive special care and always carry a clean handkerchief

  • Dress with respect for yourself, for her and for the occasion. Not just the same old denim jeans all the time.

•  Never let the sunset on a disagreement, set it straight, discuss it before going to bed and seal it with a kiss and a hug

•  Giving her flowers and chocolates once and again is always a winner

 Romancing Women Roller Coaster Ride. Chocolates and roses for a lady.

•   Ask each other’s opinion about everything

•  Give her compliments

•  Treat the relationship 50/50 in everything

  • Know your steps around the ballroom floor my son! It will melt her heart if you take her in your arms and glide over the floor to the sound of her favourite romantic song. You can still hop skip and jump, however, this will melt her heart.

You won’t believe it but this behaviour still steals a woman’s heart and make you special, be a real gentleman. All women I know will endorse this because you care and show respect.

Some men got lazy, that is to say, very little pride. I would not know how to describe the modern sloppy dress code and way of behaviour, maybe you can help me with that one, my dear.

 Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. A man in love caring a woman lovingly to a house

To Love a Woman

The Way to a Woman’s Heart

How to Make her Happy and Seduce her

This, my love, is when you have found your real true love. You are in a committed relationship and want to know the secrets to understand the woman in your life, making her happy.

•  Romancing a woman starts in the morning if you want results in the evening.

 Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Romancing starts in the morning. Man and woman kissing and touching goodbye

Another difference between a man and a woman. Take it slow and suggestive, giving compliments where it matters and leave it at that. On your way out touch the part that matters when you say goodbye. Try it!

• During the day send her a message, telling her how much you miss her and would love to run your fingers through her hair and hold and cuddle her. Set her mind going.

•  In the afternoon send her another message, taking your message a bit further, how much you want to feel her naked warm body against yours.

Going home leave the businessman attitude at work and start thinking of your loving wife and children on your way home. Getting home you will be so relaxed already.

•  After a long hard day, leave the macho businessman outside the front door. Become the tender loving man you are and show her the tender loving feelings you have for her.

  •  At home find her where she is busy in the kitchen, hug her from behind, kiss her neck and whisper sweet nothings in her ear.

  • She might surprise you, wearing just an apron and a string of pearls if your behaviour makes her feel special. You might look at a kitchen counter with different eyes in future or … turn her around and lift her against your chest, look her in the eye telling her how special she is.

  • How much you love her and have missed her during the day. Kissing her and let her slowly slide down your body for her to feel your arousal. Invite her to a shower with you before dinner and make sure to switch off the stove.

Soaking and washing each other’s bodies is a good start but that is where it ends too, it was just a little foreplay. Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride . Man-in-shower-looking-down-Leave the shower session for another day. Dinner is waiting and dessert will be taken in bed or where ever.

You have to take it slowly with your woman, my dear, the pleasure lies in the whole process of courting. Teasing her and making her want you.

Find your love dance to entice her, letting the exotic animal within her comes alive. The longer the dance the more ready she will be!

It shouldn’t be a quick and easy process, prolong the pleasure. Be never boring, have initiative and make it different and exciting every time. Set an example of mutual excitement, next time she will surprise you and take the lead.

Much later in bed when she lies in your arms, you can talk about the day’s happenings and discuss the next day.

Never use the word Sex when it comes to your loved one. You Make Love to your partner. What you have is much more special than the plain everyday sex they talk about.

Do not lie to your woman, as a matter of fact, the moment you feel the need to lie there is something fundamentally wrong.

Search your inner self and find what caused it, discussed it immediately and find a solution or a compromise. If you leave it to simmer inside you, it will become a monster that will tear you apart.

To Love a Woman

Elements of Importance

The four or rather five most important elements of a good and happy relationship are


Most important have Respect for each other, and Honesty is a close second.

When one of these elements is missing my son, it is not a good idea to stay in the relationship. Learn to know the secrets of love and honour them.

Having all four of these important elements, the DESIRE for each other will be a burning flame. Nothing and nobody will come close to what you have.


There is much talk about a soul mate in the ideal happy relationship. In a complete relationship, for instance, you have all the keys to unlock her needs and she has the keys to unlock all your needs.

Loving a Woman a Roller Coaster Ride. Bunch-of-keys-to-unlock-secret-locks

No hidden secrets, therefore, never lie to each other and are wide open. Let both be honest, sincere and vulnerable, trusting and making each other completely happy.  There will be little things bothering but decide to let it be, it is not important. You have them too!

Do yourself the favour and take the time to learn the logic of a woman’s mind, and it will make romancing a woman the roller coaster ride, a ride of adventure and excitement.

This is the easiest way to have romantic fun and bliss with benefits.

Love you

Gran Stella

Gran Stella


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30 Comments on “To Love a Woman”

  1. Wow Stella,
    Very touching … I have great respect for women and I always tried to better understand them
    After all, a woman is the only person who can make a man feel like a man, right?
    I found your post very inspiring, reading it helps me to deeply understand what women really wants
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!

    1. The delicate dance between men and women are fascinating. If we will just take the time to learn and understand each other the world will be a much better place
      Thank you for you comment I appreciate it.

  2. This is so beautiful. We need to rescue romance and old school practices like you wrote here. You are giving great advice to your readers 🙂 and if some put in practice these tips, they will definitely be compensated lol 😀 My mum tells me stories of how her boyfriend when she was young used to serenade her and compose songs for her. How wonderful is that? I never had something like that :'( I wished!

    1. Thank you Thais your comment is heart warming!
      It is time we mothers get involved in the upbringing of a new generation with integrity. All good things has gone through the drain and we have to salvage some of it … lol
      The story of your mom is precious.

  3. Not sure if you are writing this to actual grandson or to your grandaughter’s husband. Either way what a magnificent collection of manners for both the young men just starting to experience the joy of female companionship or the old married man who has over time become relaxed and forgets to treat his woman with great respect.

    You letter open my eyes to a few ways I need to change to be more appreciative of my wonderful wife and best friend.

    1. Hi Barry,
      Hahaha you will never know! I love the old school ways, it was meant to make a woman feel very special.
      I ruffled some feathers … I thought I would not be able to. Only joking.
      I believe Respect is the big one, all the rest come afterwards.
      Thank you for a great comment.

  4. hope the fellas are reading this, great advice and tips, thank you so much Stella for yet another great article. I always enjoy reading your articles, so full of wisdom.

    1. Hi Rose
      Thank you for inspiring words, and I hope so too.
      It is the time now to give The One in your live special treatment, demonstrating you devotion.

  5. Hi Stella,

    Another great post!

    Understanding and loving women is never easy. However, with respect, appreciation, trust and adoration everything will follow. I totally agree with you that these elements are the key in a good, happy and lasting relationship.

    I totally agree that the old ways are better than the ways of courting nowadays. I personally love the flowers, chocolates and sweet words of appreciation often said and whispered.

    Thank you for sharing this article.

    1. Hi Joyce
      Yes us women can be a challenge sometimes, but if a man takes the time to know the design of his woman’s mind it is very easy to keep her happy and to please her. Love her the way she wants to be loved and she will do the same.
      Good old school manners will go a long way, in essence it is how a woman wants to be treated. It makes her feel special and appreciated, though in society today it is the laughing stock if a man does it.
      Thank you for your comment I appreciate it!

  6. I’m a bit confused?… Your website says letters to your granddaughter, however, here you are writing to your grandson.  I guess, it is granddaughter and grandson?
    What I like the most about your rendition of how a man should treat a woman, was the traditional way a man should behave, in my estimation, it should be the accepted standard with no deviations as it requires effort on the part of a man to be disciplined and respectful at all times.
    I so enjoyed the fact that I had the privilege to experience these factors in my younger day.
    You are so right about how it makes a woman feel – there is no mistake in that at all, just the plain truth of what really works!

    1. It might be confusing but forgive me to write a letter to all my grandsons around the world.
      I had to let the men know what a woman is like and how we think, what better way than writing a letter to a grandson who has no granny.
      I can assure you, you will impress all women with that basic behaviour, she will adore you, and you will be the envy of all your friends.
      All your connections with women will be a smooth ride.
      Thank you for a valuable comment.

  7. Hello Stella!
    First of all, thank you so much for this amazing post about Romance and Love.
    I totally agree that nowadays, all men should act properly with women around them, and the best way to actually maintain their love and relationship is affection, care and always being a gentleman!
    I believe that living a life with a lovely partner, sharing endless love and attention, is one of the best experiences in life that no one wants to end! 
    And I think that love isn’t something easy as you mentioned, in fact, both genders must understand each other, and each other’s thinking.
    Do you think that there’s always a partner that loves more than the other? Or could it be the same for both?
    Amazing Post
    Keep it up!

    1. Respect is the magic word Georgio!
      Honesty in all your actions will capture her heart, make sure this is what you want and then jump in for a wonderful adventures ride.

      Having a happy relationship is a never ending labour of love. Keep connected with interests and values and you are halfway there.

      It should not be, both should feel the same way about each other, if not then it might not be The One.
      Look hard at all the signs and body language, soon you will realise which side of the line the dice will fall. Make a hard choice and decide if you would rather move on or are prepared to live with this equality.

      Thank you very much for your supportive comment, truly appreciated!
      p/s You are welcome to contact anytime.

  8. Hey Stella; Wow!!! You have unearthed and stripped naked the real romance that a woman needs in no simple term. Reflecting on men of old days, I want to define those days as Diamond and Gold. Women of old time were blessed with real romance.

    Stella; is there hope in you that the grand-sons of today will read, cherish, practice, and publish this golden citation on ” romancing women roller-coaster adventure?

     I hope that they will; I could feel the ambiance of love bubbling all over within me while I read through the romantic lines of realities that you have taken the time to share. 

    Thank you, Stella.


    1. My hope is for everybody to stop chasing after the fake gold. diamonds and images, to connect with the real, original Diamonds and Gold and find real honest happiness, as you say.
      Stop worrying what other people will say, do what is best for you, the others don’t care about you anyway.

      People with respect, honesty and integrity are the happiest in their heart, because they have the freedom of the world.

      Dorcas thank you for a very motivating comment, I appreciate it.

  9. Wow. Your content is valuable and sore needed in today’s society. You have wonderful insights as to how to make a woman feel loved. Your grandson is a very lucky man, for sure, and any woman with a man who treats her like this is a very lucky woman. I wish your blog much success. Thanks for sharing. ~ Elaine

    1. Hi Elaine, we all have become what we are exposed to, the cold at heart and faceless characters, acting like the robots in the videos games and TV programs, because it is cool … lol
      I wrote this letter for all the grandsons out there, big and small, old and young, in the name of all women crying out.
      Thank you for your kind words and best wishes, I appreciate it very much.

  10. Hey there. Thank you for this inspiring article. The times have really changed. I am a Millenial, and after reading your article I can only say that our generation lost the charm that a special relationship between a man and a woman had. 

    I was unaware that couples were so gentle and cared about each other. Writting letters to your loved ones, something that seems so outdated today.

    Thank you also for providing quality tips about relationships and about what women really want.


    1. When there is real love, age and time does not count, that special feeling you have with the person you have chosen is and stays bliss.
      The problem might be that the younger generations do not know what real love is. Could the disconnected society that one is everyday exposed to be the problem, what do you think?
      Understanding the importance of how to choose a partner is not well known.
      Do not marry or commit too early, gain knowledge of different people and their characters before you do, to make a better choice?
      Respect and honesty is the key to a healthy and happy relationship.
      Thank you for a great comment, and would like to know what you think.

  11. Fantastic! What an inspiring tips for a good relationship. If most of the points you levelled out are being used, the divorce rate would have been reduced.
    Most men find it easy to practice most of these tips during courtship, the moment they tie knot with their lover, the become something else. This review will be very useful for many home that are about to start their blissful matrimony and those that are at the edge of crashing . Thanks for this inspiring review.

    1. Misunderstandings lay at the core of many problems. If couples will just find the time to connect and be honest with each other it will help a lot.

      Men think and see relationships different than women and it is important to know the difference and why, and another thing is to know the love language of your partner. There are excellent books on the subject if you want to study it.
      Not all love the same way, when you find his way, you will see all the romantic little things in it and then love him back the same way.

      Thank you for a very motivating comment Estelle, I appreciate it!

  12. Hello Granny – what a smart way to tell a boy how to become a man and treat a woman. I am blown away with this idea and your values will transcend the space of time. Very well thought out.

    1. Hi Mariella, Thank you for a very inspiring comment!
      I am totally lost in modern ways and just had to voice how it could be.
      I appreciate your valuable input
      Kind Regards

  13. Hi Stella,

    More men should read this.
    I’ve also noticed that many men nowadays don’t make an effort to dress nicely for a date, some show up in their sneakers and jogging pants … it definitely shows a certain disrespect and it gives off the signal that they’re not that interested in spending time with you. It doesn’t take much effort to change those jogging pants for something nicer. I’m not expecting a suit, obviously, but just knowing that they made some effort. It makes all the difference. If they don’t make the slightest effort for a first date, then what can you expect in the future, right?

    The tips you give are beautiful and you hit the hammer on the nail. Those small things, surprises, being thoughtful, is what I would love to find in a man. I don’t think we ask for much – except for the drama queens 😉 and the high maintenance ones too 😉 – but romance seems to have changed a lot.
    Although I like directness, it all depends where and when it is used. Telling a woman “let’s have sex” is crude and while it may work for some for others it will come over as rude and disrespectful – unless a woman is looking for a one night stand …
    But yeah, different times, chivalry is dying …

    1. Hi Christine, you are spot on when you say “what can you expect in the future?”
      That to me shows there is no self respect too.
      Where does this all come from? Are we showing men how to behave, by letting them get away with it, and not demanding respect?
      Men don’t know how much this attitude hurts a woman, and that is the least they want.
      A real man will never just want to have sex. Making love is so much more satisfying, and on another level of standard.
      Thank you for taking the time to read and your motivating comment.

  14. The letter is a good breakdown of how to treat your women and how she wants to be treated. Women love different then men and we show love different.
    This letter showed me ways of listening to her and doing sweet gestures unexpectedly.
    Mw and my wife cherish each other and love the time we spend together the best moments we can not get back.


    1. Hi Matthew and Deloris,

      The whole idea of this website is to bring back the lost art of romance! My granddaughter was still at school when this site was born, and soon after she needed Homemaker guidance.

      As a granny, I, fortunately, experienced it and see the lack of it in modern relationships.
      So wonderful to hear what you have! Cherish it and keep it alive.

      Thank you for reading and your motivating comment.

  15. Hi Stella,
    I am always open to learning about the mind of a woman. I know that youth plays a big part in the desires we feel. as we get older it is harder to find that spark and energy to keep things fresh and new. Our modern age has also played a part in the loss of romance, When both parties work and come home at the end of the day exhausted from working all day, there is nobody in the kitchen! We go out to dinner, and when we get home, a good nights sleep sounds like heaven!
    But, in those rare moments alone without kids under the feet, it is good to have those quiet interludes together. As you say treat each other with respect. and both let each there know they are special.

    1. Hi Chas,

      I don’t think age has much to do with it … mindset could be the culprit.

      As we get older we fall into a groove with the label “BORING”.
      Pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone takes effort. Inventive planning and an open mind are necessary to get out of that ditch.

      My wish for you is to get the sparkle back and live to the full!

      Thank you for an inspiring comment, I hope this will inspire you too.
      I appreciate your support.

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